Frankie Boyle or Me??

[noniks]

AIBU to be v upset and vv angry that DH is choosing to honour a long standing arrangement to go to see Frankie Boyle on Thursday. With a female colleague.

He should be at our second relate session with me. Last weeks was awful (though useful) but I was so desperately upset during and after it...

I am going alone instead - and it's costing me £50 for the privelege because I want to make this work

He is the one with the issue here "I don't know whether I want to be with you / Don't know if I love you /Don't know what I want crap".

AIBU ?

Completely agree that Frankie Boyle's an arse.

Hmm. SO you booked a Relate appointment, without consulting him, on a night you knew he had another arrangement made. TBH I am not surprised he's has told you to go by yourself, it's quite controlling behaviour.
YOu probably will get more out of the appointment if you go alone than if you pressure him into coming with you and he sits there resentfully silent, whether that's ways to improve your communication or strategies for managing a split.

Sounds like you're banging your head against a brick wall. Sorry you're going through this.

Yadnbu. Frankie boyle is an evil twat and anyone who pays good money to see him should be ashamed of themselves. Your dh is a double twat for not trying to save your marriage and going to watch that c**t instead.

Relate gives you a set day every week. You don't get to choose (ime), and usually you wait some time after the assesment appt, which you prob have waited for. It is part of the therapeutic relationship or somesuch that you commit to turning up and prioritising the appt.