to threaten DH with binning his stuff

[Fibilou]

We went on a conference on the last weekend in October (2 weeks ago). DH is really, really lazy and requires constant pushing to do anything and his bag of clothes is still in the sitting room. To make it quite clear how annoying this is, it's a huge sports bag and we have a tiny house. I have to keep stepping over it and moving it to get to things.
I have asked him to deal with it almost every day, he has had plenty of time off but just can't be arsed/won't do it because I have asked him to. Usually I would get so irritated I would just do it myself but I am sick of his expecting me to run round after him like his mother does so I am drawing the line at this.

I have hurled it in the back of the cupboard under the stairs to get it out of the way. If it comes out again (which it will because he will whinge about me interfering with it) WIBU to tell him if it's not dealt with by Thursday it will be going in the dustbin when the bin men come ?

I did exactly the same with all pants and socks that were left for me to pick up by about 10 days he had none.

He has never left anything on the floor since

Perfectly reasonable. You know he does this cos he knows you'll sort it out. Good that you aren't.

Absolutely NBU.

Why dont you just empty it and wash the stuff?

I know you shouoldnt have to but it makes for an easier life.

Yeah, well how long do you go on with that for ?
An easy life for him, certainly. A life filled with work, childcare and housework for me.

YANBU - it worked with my 7 year-old's pencils and drawing stuff!

YANBU. Empty it onto his side of the bed and have an early night, alone.

move it to a more convient place :- garden, shed, balcony, attic, car or any other place

Oh, and Dracschick, I work 27hrs a week, do Body shop at home 1-2 evenings a week, have a celebration cake business, do a lot of charitable work in my rotary group, do the majority of the housework, childcare and all the cooking & meal planning. I run our household. DH goes to work and runs the finance.
I think he can manage to empty his own bag, don't you, as he does considerably less than me ? I did mine the night we got home, while looking after with a baby with a chest infection

sadly not skeleton, we have hardly any space at all which is why it's presence is so aggravating.

Fibi dont get cross with me I only suggested probably what I as a walkover would end up doing.

sorry dracs, i'm not cross with you, just annoyed at the situation

Sounds fair enough to me.

Do you have a gardent? If so, out it goes!!

I threw my ex's stuff outside in the snow,(in our garden) on advice of his own mother. She said that is what she used to do and it worked.
It did work!

YANBU, but if you threaten to do it, make sure you follow up!
Time to treat him like a toddler.
:o

oh god! he's a grown up. if its under the stairs going mouldy, let it. its out of the way now, don't mention it, then the next time he wants his shit - he can deal with it.

YANBU
..Guiltily empties own overnight case, which has been sitting in bedroom since last week, and walks away quickly...