...to not want a roast dinner every Sunday?

[MissMarjoribanks]

DH insists that we have a full roast dinner with all the trimmings, every bloody Sunday. This effectively means that we don't actually get to do anything else, as he goes to church with DS in the morning, and goes off to do his hobby in the early evening.

So, if we have dinner at lunchtime, it goes on when he gets back from church and we will finish eating about 2.30pm. If we have it at dinnertime we have to eat at 5 for him to be out of the door for 6.30, so it goes on at 2.30pm.

He does the lions share of the cooking for it, btw, so this is not a whinge about that. It just seems that with trying to get a load of housework done, looking after 11mo DS and him inevitably wanting to fit in seeing his family at some point, there is no time at which it is just the three of us spending time together at the weekend, or getting to go out anywhere other than the supermarket. We're either spread throughout the house doing various jobs, have visitors or are visiting or are eating.

AIBU to demand boiled egg and soldiers for tea next week?

YANBU.

YANBU, usually DS (6) and I do supermarket shop and get ready cooked chicked and have a roast, I do something with rest in slow cooker for Monday.

Today he asked for curry I agreed and it was lovely curled up with a DVD dinner in the warmth, I think I may do this more often.

We had a curry last week and it was fab. YANBU!

YANBU, in our household roast dinner is for special occasions only, usually when neither of us has to go to work the Monday after. The weekend is for relaxing and having a life, not for sticking to more stifling routine.

Yanbu.

We were rarely have "big" dinners on sundays, for exactly that reason. Doing something nice together on the weekend is a lot more important than filling our tummies with meat.
We often eat out on sundays to save us cooking.

There seems to be a lot about him here; he goes off to do HIS hobby, seeing HIS family, HE insists on lunch. Tell him it doesn't work for YOU - nice sometimes but on other Sundays you'd prefer something less time consuming so you can spent time on other stuff. If he's not happy with that leave him to it but make it's clear that all the cooking/cleaning up is up to him.

YANBU.

My Uncle used to insist on this apparently. My Aunt would have to cook a roast while he took the DC to Judo. She rebelled by getting rip-roaringly drunk and was often found on the kitchen floor giggling at noon.

Wish DH would piss off with the kids and let me drink cook in peace like that

Just to make clear as I really didn't intend this to be a DH bashing thread - he does his hobby on a Sunday night, but I get to do mine on a Friday. We see his family most weekends for a couple of hours, but they are close by, we see mine for a whole weekend every couple of months as they are 100 miles away.

He does wash up as well, most of the time.

I could murder a curry. We sometimes have one on a Saturday but it is fairly rare as my DH is somewhat, erm, conservative in his eating choices.

next week perhaps suggest going out for sunday lunch

Yabu

Only because I'm jealous though!

my dh is a workaholic so often works Sundays. He would burn water if he actually tried to cook anything and he has no idea how the oven works.

I would be very happy if someone was cooking me a roast dinner and all the trimmings every Sunday so yes YABU. Enjoy it!

I'm not quite sure why you are complaining -your DH takes your DS to church in the morning and then returns and cooks the dinner - and washes up (ie: you get plenty of time alone) - he then spends Sunday evening on his hobby, but you have had Friday night doing your hobby - seems very reasonable to me (and he goes to the supermarket with you) ........... what exactly are you hoping for (genuine question, not being sarky - I would gladly swap DH ).

YANBU. And by the way are you me???
My husband loves a roast dinner. And like yours will do the majority of it. And similarly disappears off on a Sunday night to watch ice hockey so we have to eat at 5pm. Hence cooking the sodding chicken about 2.30 pm!! He doesn't go to church though to we have Sudnay mornings. And we often stick the roast in the oven and then go out for a walk with the kids for an hour (just waiting for the house to burn down one day )

However my major gripe about roasts is the washing up I HATE all the oily roasting tins that it generates. (one for roast, one for roast potatoes, gravy pan, craving tray). Arrrrrgh. They sit around in 'soaking' state on edge of sink until I eventually give in a wash them. For that reason I restrict roasts to alternate weekends. Or persuade his mother to invite us round so she does it instead

YABU

we love our Sunday roasts

I see where you are coming from. Could you agree that one Sunday a month you go out as a family (after church)?

YABU I love Sunday roasts :o And eating together is spedning time together after all. But suggest a compromise of every other weekend if you aren't a roast-aholic like me.

also does it have to be a joint of meat, could you do something like pork chops / sausage type dinners.

dp likes a sunday dinner every sunday, but it's not too bad as i can put everything in the dihwasher

RW - I'd just like, one weekend, to go out (after church) for the day on a Sunday and not have to rush back to put the dinner on. Or just to sit together in the house playing with DS rather than it being just one of us with the other cooking / cleaning / doing the washing.

I do realise I'm very lucky to have him and that many DHes (sp?) won't go anywhere near the oven.

I think that I am far more spontaneous than him - he has a plan for the weekend which goes

supermarket
lunch
gardening
dinner
crap film
bed
church
roast
hobby
bed

My DP hates Sunday lunch.
We never have one

I'd love one... I only learnt to cook aged about 29 and roast dinners are something I've not dared try yet!

Send it to me!

I totally understand OP. We have the same situation more of less exactly. Church. Big dinner (which DH largely does), epic washing up. General shout about homework/piano practice etc. Collapse in chair. Antiques Roadshow to cap it all.

Ours is complicated by the fact that we have somehow got into a situation whereby MIL comes for lunch every week as well. This is fine, but we really need to give her a day's notice if weare not doing it so she can sort herself out for Sunday - any spontaenity therefore non-existant...

It's all very well, but I'm not sure I like being in such a predictable rut every w/e (we have to do the church bit as DH has an officiating capacity (not vicar!)) but I also feel it would be nice to be free of the Sunday roast expectation. However it seems even more effort to change it.

I love Sunday lunch and would have it every week, but dh's schedule doesn't always allow it. That's me, though.

If you don't want to have it every week, then YANBU. Horses for courses and all that. Talk to him. Tell him you're happy every other week, but you'd like to do other things too. Give and take.

(Emptyshell, I was terrified the first Sunday lunch I did, but it's surprisingly easy. To make sure I'm not panicking and doing everything at once, I get the joint in early and cook it for a loooooooong time on a low oven. It gets easier the more you do it.)

ourkitchen shuts at 2pm on a sunday