To tell dd1 her friend is only allowed here during certain times and during those times should only play with the things dd1 is using?

[DooinMeCleanin]

My dc stay up late on a weekend on the next morning we all wake up late and snuggle in bed before coming down for brunch and to watch TV together for a while. This is not happening any more as we are knocked up by dd1's friend, who keeps knocking loudly until someone (usually dd1) opens the door. She knows that if she perseveres someone will have to let her in as the louder she knocks the louder the dogs bark, which is not good at 9/10am when next door have had their baby (and us) awake until 4am.

Once she is in she here for the day and for all her meals and regularly pesters me or DH to turn on the wii or PC or find dd1's ds or loan her our phones to play with.

Normally I am very welcoming of dd1's friends and they are free to treat my home as their own, but I feel this girl is taking the piss now.

This morning she told dd1 that she must be allowed in (even though we were all in bed) because it was cold and she was locked out with no coat (I don't believe this is true btw)

Last night she tried to tell me her mum had gone to bed and locked her out so she must stay the night (also not true) and that she wouldn't be able to sleep alone as her father had cut his finger off and she was too worried about him Last weekend she couldn't sleep in her own house because it was too windy and she was scared (they have double glazing the same as us).

So AIBU to tell her to piss off for a while and let us have some peace? I'm not am I?

She doesn't have to sit down and quiz her in any sinister way - but if it were me, I'd just casually ask about her family and home, and try and get a feel for the situation. There's no need to be heavy-handed. And maybe it's all fine and she just has more fun at your house - in which case op needs to establish some boundaries with the parents - but if it's not, someone needs to help.

The child could be happy at home, nothing could be going on, she might just want to be at your house. Of course, there could also be a terribly sad reason why she wants to be with you. Whatever is going on you need to put a stop to her coming round all the time. Do know the mother?

Not very well Phipps.

It's not a case of questioning a child, just of simply saying 'you seem to like coming here a lot' and taking it from there.

Then it is even more odd that she is happy to leave her child with someone who she barely knows.

Talk to the child, gently.
Or tell her no knocking before x o'clock.
Talk to the mother and say you don't want the child coming round without a phone call first and mention that she has invited herself for Christmas.