why does he get to go back to bed?

[domeafavour]

H and I had night out on Friday and last night too. Rare occurence! Had great time, I got up yesterday morning at 5.45am with DS. with hangover. there was talk last night of him getting up this morning with DS who is 3.
I have always done it, as a SAHM, but just recently gone back to work.
We didn't go to bed til 3, bit stupid but we were having a great time and don't go out that much now.
Anyway, couldn't wake him this morning again at 5.45, so I got up. He comes down at 9.30 and says go on you go back up to bed now, I'll take over.
So 15 minutes later DS comes upstairs to see me. DH is asleep on the couch!
So DS could have been up to anything with hungover father sleeping on the couch.
Took him about half an hour to realise too!

cos he is a man, don't know how that works, but it does...

He had good intentions and it a one off.
Let him sleep for a bit then wake him up and demand that he cooks whilst you sleep.

That whole because he's a man thing is bollocks. Don't give someone an excuse because of their gender.

as long as you can keep the area safe - close doors to stairs kitchen etc. then stick on a dvd and give the kid something to much on and a drink, i think its fine to nap on the settee

so, what i mean by that is - you can tell him that if he's going to nap, he's got to plan it better

I'm not that happy about him napping on the couch, because I don't do it with him,but I'm more annoyed that I didn't get any extra sleep
oh hang on, didn't say, he has gone back to bed now!
It is quite safe Custardo, but DS does get into everything, wanted to make himself toast yesterday.

He is still in bed. I've had nice afternoon out with ds

"Why does he get to go back to bed".

Because you let him. Perhaps you should make it absolutely clear as a bell that you are as entitled as he is to a lie in.

I would be livid.

Send DS upstairs to see what Daddy is doing. Tell him Daddy likes to hear him singing and just loves being jumped on.

I agree with Pooka. Why didn't you stand your ground?

Yep, because you let him.

DP wakes up with DD every morning, brings her to bed to me for bf, then takes her off and prepares her breakfast and plays with her, so get to sleep for an extra hour or so.

He does it, because I'm with DD every day, whole day and he gets home usually after she's gone to bed, so it's something he can do for me and spend some time with her.

On the occasions when he goes out with his mates and comes back late (rare) we split the getting up- if he's going out two nights in a row, he knows he'll have to wake up with DD on one morning.

Well, you're just letting him. And I bet cooking dinner now too . That's why.

I had been out all day visiting MIL. When I got home DH, who had been watching sky sports all day, asked what was for dinner.

I enquired as to why he assumed I would cook for him and then do the housework he had happily ignored all day.

After looking blank and sheepish he then said it was because he has a willy.

I don't think it is actually big enough to interfere with his ability to cook, but as it is such an impairment for him I have decided to do him a favour and cut it off.

I think I will wait until he is asleep and it can be a really nice surprise.

Ok maybe I should have said why does he think it's ok?
I haven't let him. At 11am I told him to go back to sleep cos he was no use to anyone. At 1 pm I told him we were going out and he said ok when you get back in you can have a sleep. He knows I am very annoyed.
I'm sick of his sense of entitlement. We have no family life together. It's never going to work

Lynli .

domeafavour I think you need to let him know how upset and angry this is making you. I agree that it's not on.

It is cause you let him. I go out drinking a night most weeks and my husband always gets up and does everything.

Winny you have a good one. Mines a tosser.