My annoying husband

[victoriascrumptious]

I am having an affair with a 20yr old toyboy from madrid his name is Rico. I met him on the internet and now every day we have sex in the sandpit.

I'd love to tell you more details about this but my husband has been searching for this MN user name on the internet and reading everything I write here despite expressly being requested no to and me getting upset about it.

Last month he searched for all the posts I had had been writing on another forum and pulled out one where I had been talking about how I felt about fucking my career up to follow him about the world. He then proceeded to tell me how annoyed he was by the post etc etc.

AIBU to demand some space for me away from him?

You need to talk about this with him, not set up this thread so he can see what a binch of random women think of him. That is passive agressive in the extreme.

YANBU Everyone is entitled to their privacy and your husband needs to stop invading yours.

As for getting annoyed about your post about your career. He should be grateful that you're only venting about it and not refusing to fuck your career up by following him about.

Stop being a twat victoriascrumptious's husband. You married a woman, women gossip, even on the internet, get over it.

Difficult one. These forums are public, so strictly speaking he has as much right to read them as anyone else. I can understand though how it would feel like an invasion, but it's not as if he's reading your texts or hacking into your email account. However it sounds like the two of you have some communication issues that you need to address, if he's having to resort to forum stalking you to find out how you're feeling.

Can I borrow Rico btw?

Dunno but can I have Rico's number?

Am I the only one to think that he's probably acting more from pain than anything else? There's no hell like sexual/emotional jealousy, even without the added public humiliation. How would you feel if your husband - or your toyboy - started screwing someone else and then writing about it for all the world to see?

Of course you have the right to your own private space, but you're still abusing trust by cheating on him. If you really didn't want him to know what you're up to you could easily use a disguised identity. You could also leave him, which would be more honest.

Whether it's reasonable or not, there's something chillingly cold about your attitude towards the person you still choose to share your life with.

Why don't you namechange and not tell him what your new name is.

YANBU.

But stop having sex in the sandpit

Sandpit sex is unreasonable. Doesn't it hurt?

I don't want to leave him! I love him!

Um, Lee? No. Rico and I are just friends, we have been since his gender re-alignment operation in Rio which went horribly wrong and resulted in Rico having his scrotum stapled to his forehead

I did wonder when I first saw this thread whether it was a piss-take. But then I remembered a couple of situations from real life which are just as bizarre (a stapled scrotum, whoa... painful... not to mention what a drag it must be to get sand in your eyes and your balls at the same time). That's what I get for chatting on Mumsnet when I should be doing boring paperwork.

You will have more than one irritating C--t if you have sex in a sandpit.