re my DH???

[star1976]

I was cooking home made Turkey in bread crumbs for dinner with homemade chips.

DH said that he didn't want chips and would sort himself out (very rarely do chips so he can't really complain and he NEVER ever goods so especially can't complain). I said fine, and he later asked if I wanted a take away curry but I said no thanks and had chips instead (no turkey as I'm a vegi).

Cooked my planned meal for the kids anyway and they loved it. Dog enjoyed husbands too.

Then DH went out and bought chicken and chips!!!!!!!!! WTF???? Why not just eat what I was cooking???? Am so bloody angry with him!

AIBU???

star, i am saying that as he chose to buy pretty much the same meal then it must be your cooking he has the issue with rather than what was on offer. or is tehre another reason he didn't want it?

YANBU What a strange thing to do!

I am not criticising your cooking BTW (how could i? I've never tasted it) but just saying taht's what it seems he is doing.

Well, do you normally eat at the same time as the kids, or do the adults normally eat later?

In my house, my DH would not normally want to eat at 5pm with the kids and it is not unheard of that we would get a takeaway for our dinner later.

He did ask the OP if she wanted a takeaway too?

Maybe he just doesn't like turkey schnitzel and home made chips? Wouldn't be my thing either really. And it's nothing like roast chicken from a chippy, so not the same meal at all.

That said my DH does almost all of our cooking for us (the adults), so it's not an area for resentment in our house iykwim.

On a weekend we normally all eat together.

He has had Bernard Mathews turkey processed crap (provided for me to cook by his mother) before and I have done him chips and beans with them and he ate them.

In that case he is a tosspot and YANBU!

She gets him a 'care package' (as we now call it) each week. Meat for sunday roast and the like. Obviously she thinks that I don't feed him!

Anyway, DH went shopping earlier and came home with a professional chef knife set for me. He obviously knows he was wrong and this is his attempt at an apology. Either that or he is just getting his tools of the trade for his future profession as a serial killer!!!!

'care package' . Does she also come round to wipe his little bottom when you are not there to do it!!!!

Well done DH, lets hope it's the former option!!!!

Love the peace offering.

I dont think he likes your cooking OP. If MIL is sending his favourites around, hes obviously a very fussy eater.

I think a professional knife set is a fair trade for offence cause though :)

BTW - chip shop chips and half chicken is a totally different dish to homemade turkey breadcrumbs with (oven?) chips. They are leagues apart, no matter how good the homemade stuff is.

Though to be cooked a meal, turn it down, and then get a takeaway is pretty cheeky.

Possibly he didn't fancy what you were cooking, then saw how nice it was and decided he did want it after all, but dinner was already in the dog. So he did the next best thing and bought what you were cooking from the chip shop.

I think rude and very very extravagent.

My DH would only get a take-away if kids had eaten early something simple eg toasted cheese and I was having a salad.

It isn't that he doesn't like my cooking. If he didn't like it there is no way he could have hidden it for the past 5 years of living together. When we go out to eat if he is not happy with the food I can tell from the look on his face straight away.

MIL has always done it, sends fruit for the kids too, and copious amounts of sweets (far more than I would allow the children to eat in the week before the next care package). Even though we tell her that she doesn't have to.

I personally think that it is just her way of trying to keep a bit of control as, even though he is 37, had moved back in and lived with his mum and dad for 7 years before we lived together. Elder sons moved away years ago (wonder why) and daughter keeps her distance.

And no not oven chips. Proper home made chips where I peeled and chopped potatoes myself and fried in oil. Kids considered them to be a treat!

re: the care package, I wouldn't mind the fruit but if my MIL sent in sweets for the kids over and above what I would let them eat I take them away, would tell MIL not to buy any more sweets. if she continued would tell her that they were going in the bin. Would try and point her towards stuff i buy anyway like humzingers.

I often say no to something and then watch DH enjoying it and suddenly think I fancy some myself. What I've done in the past is then ask if I can have some of his and he would get annoyed because (rightly) he's just cooked it and looking forward to it (not lose half a plate to me!)

He nows says 'are you SURE?' and sometimes he EVEN makes extra (bless him) cos later if he sees me twitching he can say 'go on theres some more in the pan'.

Could it be that he felt the same but the dog had had his so he got something similar?