to put dinner in the bin and get completely wasted?

[Ladyanonymous]

OH gone to get his kids 150 miles away - I've run around like a twat all day getting beds ready, sorting out his mums b'day card getting a fire guard for the fire as its the first time they've been here where the weather might present a possibility of having an open fire amongst various other things (oh like going to work) he texts me to say he was just at school picking them up at about 3 I presumed this meant he was on his way (as it usually does) so figured he would be here 6 or 7ish.

Got stuff for dinner on way home, started cooking dinner then he phone at 5pm, he hasn't even left yet as he has been dicking about running his ex around (who by the way he always moans about and is a PITA and who he gave the money for driving lessons but she spent it on fags and booze so still cannot drive).

I'm really pissed off and told him so as he'll spend all of Sunday driving them back and then he'll go back to where he lives for the week. He said fine he'll get a hotel and stay there - to which I said fine and hung up :( I now don't know what the fuck is going on and wonder if AIBU to chuck dinner in the bin and just go straight on to the wine I bought?

I told him

:(

Eat and have wine. If they come home, they can reheat it. Don't throw it away though.

Men :(

Don't chuck it, reheat later, start on the wine now (it is well past wine o'clock, get going girl.)

Great name by the way

I may open a bottle right now

I would be fucked off. not fair on the dc to arrive that late either.

Sorry to hear though you are being mucked about. Maybe it was kind of beyond his control???

Open the wine.

Well, I'd bin it. If he turns up later then send him out for a takeaway. Maybe stop running around after him so much - doesn't sound like he's appreciating the effort.

Drink wine. Eat your portion of the dinner. Keep the rest and when OH turns up, tell him he can reheat it if he and his kids want some. If not, they can get a takeaway.

did he turn up?

Hes probably really pissed off too having to drive around his PITA ex. I'm sure he'd much rather have been home on time for a lovely dinner!

I think you need to be nice to him and remember its her that is the problem.

Drink some wine, calm down, ring him and tell him you love him and that the dinner has been put in the fridge and will be no problem to reheat later :-)

Stay clear of him and his kids.#Sounds like a disaster already.

Do you have kids yourself? When I was single and chilfree, I never understood why someone similar would chose to live with another person who has so much baggage. Sorry, but there's a whole lot of people out there who are able to spend the entire weekend with their otherhalf.

Why bother with someone with a PITA ex and kids?

Yes, my thoughts entirely Expat.

It's crackers.
Why guive yourself a whole load of shit to deal with?

'I think you need to be nice to him and remember its her that is the problem.

Drink some wine, calm down, ring him and tell him you love him and that the dinner has been put in the fridge and will be no problem to reheat later :-)'

Even easier to find someone who's single who doesn't have all this baggage.

Give me a break.

Be nice to him? Tell him you love him and dinner will be on the table like a good little 1950s wifey?

Are you for real?

Life's hard enough, isn't it, moony?

There are TONS of single guys out there who don't come with a 10m storage unit full of crap.

I just think that he is probably as stressed out as she is and doesn't need it from both sides.

He'll be feeling obliged to drive his ex around, who is probably giving him all sorts of crap, and feeling awful about being late.

If it is not his fault he is late he needs to be sympathised with not criticised.

If he there through choice then yes she should be annoyed.

and its not being a 1950s wifey, its thinking of how I would like to be treated if it was the other way round.

She, teh OP, doesn't need it at all.

Get rid, Ladyanonymous.

This guy doesn't even see you during the week, either, and the weekend's all about his kids and his ex?

Screw that for a game of soldiers.

and its not being a 1950s wifey, its thinking of how I would like to be treated if it was the other way round.

I'd expect to act like an adult, as in, we're late, so I'll sort my own dinner and that of my children rather than expecting my girlfriend to be there all happy as larry at my very prescence.

LA - again ... come on - it really is time to tell him to do one.

she has chosen to go out with someone who has children and work miles away.

She didn't write in her OP that she is wondering whether to keep him or not so I assumed that dropping him was not an option.

If she stays with him then she'll have to accept that sometimes things don't run to plan.

He must really love her to do all that travelling to fit in seeing her around his work and children.

Yeah, well, unchose to go out with him.

Find someone who doesn't have all this baggage, it's really stupid if you're single and childfree.

i agree totally

The more I read about this guy, the more I think he's a right arse and just not worth the hassle.
How is this fun?

Tis why I'd never date a guy with kids.

Same here, heyhey. Or blokes with PITA ex's. I went out with one guy who was legally separated - I made him show me the papers - but whose ex was a loon (no kids involved on either side). And sure enough, had to dump because he just wasn't willing to let her go and continued letting her run his life.

She has kids from what i have seen in other posts, and plenty of her own baggage, ex h etc.