To want my DH to let me know they have arrived safely?

[jaggythistle]

Ok I am a worrier and he and DS are only going 1.5 hours away to my in-laws for a visit. (while I am at work)

I asked me to send me a text or something when they got there.

Had to text him there to ask if they were there yet , he eventually called and said he'd been too busy. They've been there about 2 hours.

I wasn't asking for a written report on the drive, just a tiny call or text.

Meh.

Am I being totally unreasonable to ask this?

(or just a bit of a sad worry pants*)

(*like judgey pants but a different colour maybe)

YAB a bit U to be honest - unless DS is babe in arms and this is his first time away from you.

It would drive me crazy if I had to text my DH everytime I drove somewhere.

Not every time, just longer trips I think. If he'd said he couldn't be bothered I wouldn't have expected anything IYSWIM. :)

DS is 13months by the way not a wee baby. I do miss him while at work, so am probably just jealous that I am not sitting playing with him and wee neice...

yanbu
I always let dh know when I get to MIL or somewhere involving a longish drive, why not.......tis polist

TBH if it was me doing the driving and visiting I would have forgot to send a text.

YANBU.

We always do this, and DH would text if he was going to be late home from work so that I don't worry he's gone into a ditch.

It is polite, doesn't take a moment, I can't see why people don't tbh. If I have been at my parents and drive back here, I always give them a quick ring just to let them know I am back. Common courtesy I think.

yanbu, i weould want to know too. however, i don't always remember to ring if i'm going somewhere different, so don't be too harsh on him

When you arrive somewhere and you are greeting people and going indoors/taking bags out of the car/being offered a cup of tea etc it is easy to forget or not have the time to send a text or make a call.

If you're a worrier and he knows that then I don't think it's unreasonable for him to send a quick text when they're on a longer journey just to let you know they got there safely.

Ok so I am a bit unreasonable :)

TBH, my MIL would probably put me off as she was milling around telling me what she'd read in the Daily Mail today, so I'd maybe better be a bit more lenient...

I am less of a worrier than I used to be

Maybe it's a generational thing? As an old git, I grew up before most people had mobiles so never got into the habit of doing this. Personally I would find it quite intrusive but each to their own. What does your DH say about it?

Well he would expect the same I think, from past experience if I was away somewhere a wee bit further.

I am not that young, I was in my 20s before I had a mobile ;)

With the distraction of my PIL and one 10 month old and one 13 month old clambering about, I may have to let him off...

We aren't away like this very often, so it's only an occasional thing. I don't need to know where he is all the time or anything!

Hope that makes it sound less intrusive? :)

Like I say, am not meaning to say that you are in the wrong, only that I wouldn't like it personally. I think it's a very individual thing.

If your DH would expect the same from you then I think it's totally reasonable for him to return the favour.

I guess one of the downsides of doing this regularly, is that - if someone forgets - it makes anxiety worse.

jybay - my parents always used to ring their parents when we got home after seeing them, and vice versa - and that was a loooong time before mobile phones!