to be annoyed with DH this morning....

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So its 6 am and ive been up alot of the night with DD's (2.5 & 5mths), they're not very good sleepers, but DH can sleep through anything and does! so he always has a full nights sleep...

Anyway so he doesnt have to leave for work til 6;45 and it takes him 10 minutes to get ready so i say to him ' i was up alot in the night im going to sleep in until the kids wake up, you'll have to do your own pack lunch today'

Well he was huffing and puffing all because he had to put bread and butter with fruit in a bag!

he then left for anouncing 'well i didnt have time for cereal because of this'

i was really annoyed!

How many of you actually do DP or DH pack lunch for him or does he do it himself?

Sorry rant over!

It would seem your H has functioning arms and hands, so there's no reason on earth you should be making his sandwiches. I suggest a 'debilitating illness' for yourself, and a kick up the arse for your H.

Oh and he has the nerve to complain about the amount ofbutter too!!

think ive just been too bloody nice to him and need to give him a kick up the arse!

we shall be having words later

My DP is spoiled rotten.
I cook & freeze batches of chilli/curry/pasta so that he can have a hot, home-cooked meal every day.
Sandwiches do not constitute a proper meal, in his opinion.

Have these men never heard of Pret?

You should step it up a gear and stop wiping his bum for him too...

YANBU to be hacked off at him, I would hope for an apology.

Have to say though, it doesn't take much to put me in a foul humour at that time in the morning. And men are creatures of habit IME, If he doesn't get his cereal it could throw off his intestinal transit and force him to have to poo at an unexpected time and place, and possibly with no reading material to hand.

I do my dhs pack-up for him!I work mornings he goes out 45 mins after I come in. Therefore if he wants a hot meal before work he has to do it.I always come home from work to my dinner on the table ! Fair exchange .

My DH tried this a few times early on. Nip it in the bud. Mine now buys lunch at work and has no breakfast. He is still alive. He's also magically learnt to iron. He's learnt not to say anything but thank you now as after years of training he's realised I'm actually happy to do many things for him, providing they are appreciated and not expected.

lol at fair haired and the butter!!!! DH makes his own sandwiches, and so do the DC. But I am a saint who makes sure there is always a supply of bread, butter and fillings

What an arse. I make DW's lunch most days but if I'm running late and can't do it she doesn't moan and grumble. She just buys a sandwich.

YABU to be annoyed with your poor husband. Were you not aware that it's your job to pander to his every need, run an immaculate home and raise happy, fulfilled children, all the while wearing high heels and full make up?

Oh, that's right, it's 2010, not 1950.

I'm lucky in that my DH had to fend for himself from an early age and is therefore pretty proficient at cooking, ironing etc (although he persistantly and inexplicably continues to put woollen items on a hot wash).

Careful not to make a rod for your back - my elderly auntie pampered my uncle all his life and now she is crippled with arthritis and blind he still expects her to do stuff for him

YANBU

I cannot imagine why he would expect you to do this after a hard night.

Sounds like my parents.......mum has been retired for a few years now but still gets up at 6.30 every morning to make my dad's sandwiches. Silly woman.

If I make lunch I generally do it the night before, I've never got up and made him lunch he's always made lunch for me

If he was ungrateful he'd know about it and i'd never make it again.

I told DH early on that I wouldn't be making his sarnies. Sometimes, if I'm making packed lunches for the kids I might be nice and make his too, but that would be as a favour, NOT his God-given right!

I think it's enough that I shop for the food and sometimes have leftovers/soup he can take. He's used to making his own lunch, which is great. Now if I could just train him to bring back the bloody sandwich boxes...

the thing is for the first year he did his own pack lunch, use to cook and iron his own clothes! we are only late 20's and he's just got so lazy and i think i just got to the point (before children) that it seemed easier for me to do these things but now the DC are here it hasnt changed.. i suppose that is my fault but whenever i bought it up before it turns into a bloody arguement -
should be home any minute, he better apologise!

You mean you were doing these things for him before you even had kids? So it isn't that you are up and sorting them out anyway and so have got in the habit of doing his lunch etc too?
That makes it worse, he really is taking the piss!!

I'd do it the night before and leave it in the fridge.

I'd be putting his dirty underpants he left on the floor in between two pieces of bread and wave him on his way!
Cheeky fart

Tonight, everytime you get up to the kids, shake your DH awake and say "Do you want to get up to the kids or would you rather I made your lunch in the morning? Your choice, Sweetums."

It also sounds like it's time for you to leave him with the kids for a night.

DH Makes it himself AND shares night duties. I know I'm lucky but sounds like your DH needs a bit of a kick!

haha. My husband looks after our daughter on the three days I work, and on Wednesdays has from morning til I get home, cooks us dinner, the goes as does a 14-hour night shift. Does have 4 hour sleep on thursdaysnd does another long night shift, then only has 2 hours and gets up so we can all go out and do something nice on Friday afternoon.

and when I was doing 2 hourly breastfeeding ( this was like this for about 20 months) he get up and get me drinks and put DVDs on) that was when he worked full time and I was on mat leave

wow cant beleive how many good men there are out there... and i didnt get 1!

Jybay- brilliant i shall try that tonight, i actually laughed when i read that!

mamas12 :)

Tell him to make his own, cheeky bugger!