DS2 is 14 weeks and has always been ok at night - even when tiny he only really woke once in the wee hours for a feed before going back down again in his cot in our room.
However, the past 10 days or so he hasn't been hungry at night and when he wakes we've been bringing him into our bed where he settles quickly and easily. The reason for us doing this was so that he doesn't wake his older brother, which was happening. DS1 was a terrible sleeper, waking at 5am every day until about 6 months ago - hence my total fear of him being woken.
What I hadn't realised, though, is that my husband has been cuddling DS2 to sleep whereas I'd just had him in the bed next to us. DS2 now expects this so what began as a useful way of us all getting sleep now results in one or other of us either being awake most of the night with a wriggly baby in our arms, or sleeping in awkward positions which becomes quite painful.
And it's affected day sleeps too, with DS2 needing to hold our hands and be rocked in the pram to get off to sleep and not staying asleep for long (30 minutes max, and still v tired on waking, won't nap in cot). That's another thing - when DS2 was born I tried putting him down for naps in the cot but it's too hard with a 3yo downstairs shouting for you or going on the potty alone while you're up with the baby. What are you supposed to do??
Any suggestions as to the best way to get him to settle in his cot? And any ways to avoid DS1 waking (we are in bedrooms next to each other, and although we're investigating a loft conversion I don't think any of us can wait that long!). I really want to nip this in the bud. Not prepared to do any kind of CC/CIO method but I'm aware we're in quite a pickle over all this. Quite up for beginning to change things tonight, especially if I can get MIL to have DS1 overnight.