To think DP has handled this badly?

[Mahraih]

DP and I are having our anniversary soon, and DP very kindly got us tickets to see a gig - tonight.

A couple of days ago, a colleague/friend of mine (who DP also knows and liked her DP) who is also going to the gig with her DP, suggested that we go to dinner before, as a foursome.

I said I'd have to ask as obviously this is an 'anniversary thing' for DP and he might have objected. We hadn't previously discussed what we'd do before the gig.

DP has to change the tickets as I will need seating (pregnant), and said that dinner was fine by him as long as he could get the ticket admin done in time.

Now, about ten minutes ago, a friend of his has called up - she is also going to the gig and he has arranged to have dinner with her: "As I?ve been meaning to catch up with her for ages I?m going to have dinner with her pre-gig, and obviously you are more than invited."

Now I know this wasn't a romantic anniversary night but I'm really very annoyed. He's arranged dinner with a friend of his who I've never met and has invited me along?! And now he's saying that he thought we hadn't confirmed with the other friends: no, we hadn't confirmed because he thought tickets might be difficult, not because he might have other plans.

I'm mostly angry because I will now either have to have dinner separate from DP (normally fine, but a bit weird in this situation) or drop my friend who did ask us first and have dinner with a girl I've never met.

AIBU? I know I am slightly, but I'm not sure if I have a right to express my irritation to him...

Men are wrong, and fuckwits and twats. Oh and wankers. And yes he should be strung up by the bollocks and have his lungs ripped out.

And it is reasonable you should have a hissy fit.

You are being perfectly reasonable.

ccpccp, TBH I don't think he double booked to make an obscure point, he's really not the sort to play games like that.

If DP thought he couldn't say no without offense, why would he think he could double book without even MORE offense?

DP and I hadn't really planned the evening aside from the gig which is why I think communication broke down and expectations got confused. We hadn't planned dinner together - I did however assume that we'd at least discuss SOME sort of plan and thought that's what I was doing when my friend suggested dinner.

Maybe he took that differently - the part I was offended about rather than it being an anniversary is that he suddenly made an entirely new plan without even discussing it with me. I think he realises that wasn't the best thing to do.

BTW resolution seems to have been achieved! DP offered to cancel with his friend which I appreciated, but it won't be necessary as everyone is happy for us to join the bigger group.

So I think things are ok between DP and I now!

Argh, another x-post! :)

sparklerz yes, yes, we all agree ;)