To be annoyed when a friend who works very part time criticises me for being a SAHM?

[Holland75]

I find many people constantly tell me how they couldn't possibly do my job and how bored they would be. It would be deemed incredibly rude if I said the same about their jobs. I left a great job to stay at home and do not regret it but find these comments difficult.

Tell 'em! If they say it would make them bored, why not reply: "That's rude."

Life is too short to care about what other people do. You're doing what's right for you. Just smile and wave.

Tell them they wouldn't have time to be bored; I certainly didn't.

Am sahm and can see how people would find it boring tbh! I find it very boring indeed sometimes.

However, I also think being an accountant, lawyer, anything in the city, shop worker, tele sales, call centre worker, etc would be beyond dull. Absolutely grinding. I'd never say that to anyone's face, mind.

So - yabu.

I get this too. "I could never be a SAHM, I would be brain dead". Implication: "You are brain dead" or "You are so stupid that you were already brain dead before becoming a SAHM".

It's something I am quite sensitive about.

Although it is true. My brain is dead.

Sorry - YANBU!

Dont be annoyed. Dont waste an emotion on it. These judgements are not constructive. They are put downs. Mothers who go out to work or stay home and word all get criticism. Kate is right - do your own thing

would just ignore them, yanbu it is extremely rude but they must be quite a dull person if they would get so bored iyswim because if they had more going on in their mind they could keep themselves entertained and keep their brain active in any sitution?
you know you are doing the best thing for yourself and dc as you said yourself you dont regret it so just laugh in her face if she keeps this up, really dont let it get to you!

my SIL told me (at the time a SAHM to one) "when I have children I shall have to go back to work for my own self respect". Kind of coloured our relationship ever since, although in fairness she did have a series of part-time jobs when her DC were small. However, my working from home business isn't regarded as a "proper" job, and most of that side of the family were full of "well done!"s when I took on a short term contract over the summer, as though my 7 year old business wasn't work.

Sorry for the rant, I hadn't realised how much it still pisses me off.

OP, ignore, ignore, ignore.

I do like to quote my old english teacher at such times "only boring people get bored"

YANBU. Being a SAHM might bore some people. SO might any other job you care to mention, all depends on your own interests/priorities etc. But it is very rude to imply that it is a boring role in itself when it's your choice, and you obviously enjoy it.

I've had these comments too and tbh I'd never thought before about just how rude it is to say that. It's true people would never say to a teacher/retail worker/nurse etc that they would find such a job boring.

I think when you become a mother, other people feel it is okay to comment on all the decisions you make, hence SAHM being criticised for being at home and WOHM being criticised for going out to work. Can't win.

YANBU
What job is more stimulating than raising your children?

Agree YANBU - say something similarly ridiculous and controversial like 'yes, but as I had the children I like to take responsibility for them.' Or 'it's such a shame you have to work very part time- are finances that tough?'
That's quite offensive, but she doesn't seem to mind upsetting you!

These comments really are all about the person who makes them. Most jobs are dull at least some of the time; some jobs are dull all the time.

And if you don't find children interesting, even your own children, that's fine, but its not something to show off about exactly.

I love the "only boring people get bored" quote - it's so true.

I agrre with FATTY but I think it reflects on you how you are taking the comments, they don't sound like criticism to me. Many people would be bored senseless being SAHM. I must be boring as everything I do bores me sometimes. Nothing I've done has been as rewarding as being SAHM though.