to think this is a very strange offer by colleague

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Yhere is a guy in my office who I get on pretty well with. He comes across as quite blokey but actually discusses his personal life a lot and is more than happy to join in with office conversations about sex, relationships etc which I find quite refreshing. The other day, he casually mentioned that he had bought his girlfriend a rabbit but she didn't want it and did I want it? Thinking he meant the floppy eared, fluffy tailed type of rabbit, I was about to ask him how big it was and what colour as DD has been harassing me recently to get a pet. He then said that it was still in the box and hadn't been used and I twigged that he meant THAT kind of rabbit. I didn't know what to say so just gave a nervous kind of laugh and said I'd let him know. Should I feel really offended?

Weird if you ask me.

Tell him you already have a swarkozki one so unless its the diamond one you dont want it.

It is weird tho .......innit?

yes. I would. One thing to work somwhere with a bit of office banter, quite another to be offering second-hand vibrators, fgs! Maybe he's a pervert who would get off on the thought of you using it...

That would annoy me a little TBH. But I don't like casual dirty talk.

lol at the thought of you asking him for the size and colour!

very strange offer YANBU

also, wonder how his girlfirend would feel about him giving vibrators to women at work????? me thinks he didnt really think it through before opeingn his mouth!

This sounds like a very odd workplace dynamic if he thought this would be ok. He could quite easily find himself in trouble for sexual harassment doing things like this.

The weirdest thing is the really casual way in which he asked , the way I'd ask someone if they watched X Factor on Saturday. He seemed to think it was totally normal.

Yes... be offended because that's a form of low-level sexual harassment. I'd stop seeing it as 'refreshing' & stop encouraging his odd conversations. He's crossing a line

yuck yuck yuck.

does he actually ahve a girlfriend? no man in his sane mind would buy a vibrator for a girlfriend and then give it to a colleague. they would all farrather go with tail between legs back to ann summers and ask for their money back than risk the wrath of their girlfriend or the ridicule at the office.

this man has a thing for you and lieks the idea that you will be using something (a willy) he gave you (his willy) to get off.

Totally agree with booyhoo. He's a creep.

I'd have bitten his hand off for it

I would not be happy with DH handing out dildos at work myself! weird offer.

Why doesnt he ebay it if its new?

Erm......I would say that constitutes sexual harassment to be honest. Certainly totally inappropriate.

He is overfamiliar and inappropriate imo.

I would avoid discussing my personal life in a work situation other than pleasantries tbh.

You make yourself vulnerable imo if you are having discussions regularly with colleagues (be they male or female) about your personal life, sex life etc.

Different if you see them out of work obviously, then the relationship becomes more of a friendship than a colleague type relationship. But even then information of a personal nature should be kept out of the actual workplace.

I think it sounds as if there has been too much discussion about "personal life and sex" in your office. Get back on a professional footing. Don't mention his kind offer again (even to say you don't want it).

Grim

Can anyone else imagine their partner or dh offering up an 'unused' vibrator to a female colleague because I certainly can't.

totally agree Thingumy I work with 2 men and about 10 women. We are all perfectly polite and pleasant with each other, and have a very low turnover of staff. Apart from the very occasional comment on a "night out" setting we have never had discussions about our personal lives let alone our sex lives.

If one of my male colleagues offers me a vibrator tomorrow I will be straight to HR to complain (and then on here to post about it)

Tacky and weird.

Dare you to offer him a strap on for his gf in exchange. Do so while handing him lube.

bleurgh, he sounds creepy

He'll be offering to show you how to use it next!