to have deleted a FB friend for this status update?

[Diziet]

I had to double-check it, I doubted the evidence of my own eyes.
She'd been sent a joke, which she'd put as her status, and it went as follows:
"No wonder they call it a funny bone, I just elbowed a Paki in the head" she then added to this that SHE'D thought it was funny!
So racially motivated violence is amusing, huh?

I deleted her.
She wasn't really a 'current' friend: someone I used to go to school with.
Have I been rather quick with the 'delete' button or would any of you have done the same?

I deleted someone not long ago, again an old school friend, as every status update started being in support of the BNP. He'll not miss me, which is a shame as I would have have liked him to ponder why he got deleted. Maybe other people did too, hopefully.

I chickened out of a full on status update about it - I've put instead that I'm disappointed in someone. Interestingly, a mutual friend has asked who's upset me, and I have explained, without naming names etc... I think the mutual friend knows.
Let's see what develops.

Ohhh I delete people for far more minor infracations!

Well...the mutual friend has said, 'that's the problem with some people, they don't respect others'. I think the mutual may be on my wavelength, which is a relief!

Dont blame you at all, have deleted people for less

However, I have one friend who often posts things like this. I have them on hide. They are a very very old friend I lost touch with for many years and I just cant bring myself to delete them now we are back in touch. I dont like his humour at all, but choose to ignore it at the moment which I know isnt great long term. I will one day get the guts up to ask why he's so racist in his humour.

Hmm, she could have left her account open and someone Facebook raped her. I would have given the benefit of the doubt for the one occasion.

It's hard isn't it: it should be black and white ('scuse the pun) - racist comments are wrong - but how do you approach someone like that?

Delete but tell her why.

ready , judging by the comments on the status update in question, I believe this was her own work - well, a joke she'd been sent which she'd found funny and decided to share.

Don't blame you for deleting.

As an aside "Facebook raped" - vile horrid phrase. I know it is used on FB a lot but I truely hate it, with a passion. Sorry.

agree Hula.

A moron friend on mine likes to 'FB rape' her H's account and thinks she is ever so clever for using the phrase.

I hate that term too - I wondered what it meant when I first saw it! Luckily Mr Diziet is highly technophobic and I only ever refer to him by the following anacronym: THINATMOFB.
So not much chance of him doing that to me!

YANBU - as pretty much everyone on here thinks anyway!
I deleted a 'friend' (actually a friend of DHs that neither of us had seen for about a decade) because he was a fully active member of the EDL - now everyone is entitled to their own beliefs etc but I didn't want to get daily updates of getting coaches up to cities literally hundreds of miles from where we live to 'protest' and seeing pictures of him wearing St Georges Cross masks etc... (I wanted to message him and ask him why, if he was so proud of his 'actions' and they really were 'within the law' was he wearing a mask so he couldn't be identified? But I too chickened out as it would have been DH who got harrassed about it, not me)

Yes, agree horrible phrase, but you all knew what I meant. If it is her work, yanbu. I would be tempted to tell her why I had deleted her though. Most jokes are offensive to someone though.

TastesLikePanda - ooer, tricky situation there. I've been lucky really - I don't see this ex-friend at all although she lives in the same town as me (you know what'll happen now, of course - I'll bump into her tomorrow!
better start preparing some politely cutting responses!) - so I don't think it will make things too awkward.
I almost wish, though, that I'd remained 'friends' now just so's I could have asked her what was so funny about elbowing a person from Pakistan in the head.
'Ere - can anyone remember how that joke about
how many racists does it take to change a lightbulb goes? Is the punchline, 'none, because they refuse to be enlightened' or something like that?

Diziet - In an ideal world you will bump into your 'friend' tomorrow, and you will have the balls to elbow her in the head and then say in a cutting voice 'Looks like the joke's on you' or something more clever like Horatio Caine in CSI Miami! (sunglasses optional)

But alas this is not an ideal world (because if it was, then we wouldn't be having this discussion?!) and therefore when you do bump into her next you will be in too much of a rush to stop, or you will be with your boss, or children or someone else that you can't do violence in front of... or a bird will have pooed on you and you will feel all undignified etc - This is what would happen to me anyway!!!

at TastesLikePanda sounds like you live in the same world that I do!

YANBU, I delete people for lolling and hunning too much (except SIL because I'd get in trouble, which is a shame because she's the worst offender) so a racist joke would certainly be a good enough reason for deleting.

Firstly you are not BU.

Secondly - I dont get the joke.

I know - it's not even funny is it??
I mean, whatever way you look at it...it's completely unfunny!!

I would have reported her first - you can report posts that are racist and the person gets contacted and made to delete it. I've done this a couple of times now and it's very satisfying to think some moron is being 'ticked off' by the powers that be at Facebook.

Ooh, bugger, I didn't think of that, Oscalito.
What a numpty.

I had something similar on FB with a bloke I went to school with 20 years ago....was thinking about culling him anyway as had no contact IRL since school and then he put some similarly nasty crap on his status and I didn't need anymore convincing. YANBU delete.