to ask DN not to use her phone at the table?

[ChristmasTrulyReigns]

This has been an ongoing teeth-gritting, temperature-raising situation for me.

Every time BIL's family comes over for, granted, a very informal meal, she just seems to be constantly on her iPhone, whether it is sending texts or using the apps.

I would mention it very pleasantly, and in a joking fashion, but I am just concerned that as her mom doesn't tell her not to, it's not really my position to override her mom's parenting skills.

So, AIBU to gently and teasingly ask her to put it down while we are sitting eating?

Personally although it annoys me a bit (young cousins do it constantly!) I just accept it's what they do & what they are allowed to do at home, so not my place to 'correct'.

However, if it's spoiling your enjoyment, in your home then it's up to you if you want to say something - but - I think if you are going to say anything, you should ask her privately before you start the meal. It's not really fair to make as issue of it in front of everyone when her parents clearly allow her to do it.

Pfft. NO TEXTING AT THE TABLE!!

YANBU. I think using a phone or reading at the table is rude and hugely disrespectful of your hosts.

My brother and his girlfriend are constantly texting people at the table. When we all went out for my mums birthday she even answered a phone call at the table and yapped for ages - my dad was furious but we have no idea how to tell her she's being rude without being rude to her. She's 21 fgs, she should know not to use her phone at the table.

It's just rude............it's saying that you aren't interesting enough I need more simulation.
I have ?broken up? with a friend over this.
Now fair enough to a teen, chances are that they may be a bit bored, but learning to look interested is a useful skill for when your boss starts rambling on. . . . .
Hey you could be teaching her a valuable life skill

I would be very upset if someone said this to my DD (17), she has social anxiety and her iPhone is very much her safety blanket.
However, perhaps have a word with her parents rather than her, or pull her into conversation.

Could you put a bowl near the table labeled "Phones" and all put your own phones in, then sort of clear your throat and say "Ahem", point to the bowl and then say "Family dinnertime rule"
?

That bowl idea is quite amusing.

SubtletyTrulyReigns.

Kids shouldnt have mobiles at the dinner table, it is rude. Like eating with your mouth open, or burping or farting whilst at the table. Bad manners.

Just say _ can you leave your phone in teh kitchen please, we don't allow mobiles at the table.