to expect DH's family to actually say what they want?

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MIL is 70 next year and BIL came up with the suggestion that we all(PIL, BIL & SIL, Me, DH and 3 DCs)went on a Baltic cruise together because this is something MIL has always wanted to do. Knowing MIL I thought it unlikely but we looked into it and found that it would cost a minimum of £8000 for us as DCs are all old enough to be classed as adults. BIL also said to us they didn't really want to go as it was very expensive.

We saw PIL a couple of weeks ago and they said they didn't really want to go on the cruise but they would go with BIL and SIL if they wanted them to. MIL said she just wanted to spend some time with all of us and suggested we get a cottage somewhere in UK.

A week later MIL said she had spoken to SIL and that they were happy with cottage. I have found something suitable and emailed details to SIL. But now BIL has phoned to say PIL are really keen to do cruise but we don't want to come because its too expensive.

Aaargh!

Tell them you won't be able to do the cruise as it is far too expensive and if your MIL wants a celebration with all the family then it will have to be the cottage idea.

If they are still set on the cruise, let them go and have a meal together when everyone is home.

They dont want to go on a cruise with you

Hth

That's obviously it Tatty!

I am happy to leave them to it but it just seems mad for 4 adults to go on an expensive cruise that none of them particularly want to because no one will actually say so. MIL is a very fussy eater so all-inclusive will bring her out in a complete panic.