To agree that contact once a month for 4 hours is not enough?

[TerryB]

My nephew has recently split with his girlfriend and they have an 18 month daughter whom he dotes on. He has never been in trouble and works very hard. he's a good lad. they seperated because she was having an affair and the courts have given him just 4 hours contact a month in a contact center. he is devasted because the new man in his ex's life is now living with his daughter and has more contact than him. is 4 hours the norm in these situations and is this fair?

What? No one????

What were the reasons given for the short contact?

There must have been a reason the courts decided that.

We've just been through it with dp and his ds and was told that unless there was a really good reason against it then a judge will, in most cases, award every other weekend and 50% of all holiday's to the NRP which is what dp got.

I can't see a judge just giving the NRP just 4hrs a month in a contact centre unless he had a reason for it?

I have heard of others getting the same and some others getting better than this too. Is this the norm and is this enough for him to bond? I don't think so at all.

Well, if he is a good dad and poses no risk to the child/mother I don't understand why contact is in a contact centre in the first place and why only 4hours?

What reason was given for the above? There must have been one surely?

Agree with others - what are the reasons for this? Do you have full story?

There might well be more to it than your nephew wants you to know.

My nephew's mum tried to suffocate him and the court still gave her 4 4hour supervised visits a WEEK - supervision is either her parents, me or my brother at her home or a soft play centre.

Has there been a long period of time where he has had no contact? DP's ex stopped all contact for a year and because he hadn't seen his DC for such a long time, to start with he only got 2 hours every two weeks in a contact centre after going to court.

There could be more to it OP, but equally it could just be another sorry example of how the courts work in this country nowadays.

The fact that his girlfriend ended the relationship with an affair counts for very little.

Maybe your son can beg for more access once the demands for maintenance start?

Can't comment on whether it's fair or not because there isn't enough detail given.