Also posted in behaviour so sorry to repost, Gosh, I am really worried and not sure what to do.
DS is 3 next week. He is a lovely boy but does struggle sometimes with sharing (speech a bit poor) and we have been working REALLY hard to avoid pushing/hitting/biting etc and he is doing really well. He gets so upset and shows hugh remorse but I have got upset and embarrised at times. Anyway I am kind of dreading anything happening at his birthday as our Zero tollerance approach has been really working. Anyway with carful support he shoud be fine. (its all very normal stuff, but my expectations can be overly high my friends say! HOWEVER
a friend within our baby group has a son who is VERY VERY difficult. He lashes out, pulls hair, screams, bites, pushes and this is off the scale compared to his peers at times. Mum is lovely but doesn't punish in anyway, she distracts which occasionally works for him, but never for the victim and whilst I am supportive of her, week after week after week his behaviour is never addessed and this creates confusion for my DS and his pals.
Unfortantatly a few months ago the little boy dug his nails into the face of another boy in a scuffle and the other child was badly hurt (blood etc) it was nasty. He wasn't punished and we were all very shocked. Quiet righly the other parent went mad at my friend. This didn't really change her approach to his behavior sadly.
My DS struggles around this little boy as all that I tell him not to do, the other boy does to him, and my DS quite righly doesn't understand why X doesn't get time out etc, won't share with him etc. If my DS asks to play with X he screams in DS face, won't share etc.
Now my friend is a single mum with lots going on and I want to be supportive BUT I now feel its not fair on my DS or his pals.
The victim of his last attack is coming to DS birthday and that will cause tension. I want my DS to have a lovely afternoon but I really worry x will make things difficult.
What do I do!! AIBU to say something and if not how and what!??