To think sex should still be great

[susiesmith]

hi

When I first met dh 3 yrs ago the sex was the best I have ever had, totally amazing. We are now married and have a baby. But very very happy together, but I have to say recently sex has been a bit ehh quiet. I fancy him and love him, but why can't i get there-- if you know what I mean.

Is this just par for the course? I am I being unreasonable to think sex should get better in a loving relationship not worse???

Thanks
susie

hmm...susie how about condoms?...you can have fun trying different types out and i can make some recommendations, I used the withdrawl method at one point too...but its not safe..that can make you apprehensive.

Mastubation can be very sweet and fulfilling personally.. but also can be used with your partner...if you are coy try it with him first

Already been to bed tonight - had sex after put baby in bed 7!

thnaks for all the advice i'll work on it.

"I realise that it is a two way street - not really sure the dressing up thing is for me and really not sure where to go with it"

I suggest you give it a try. Buy yourself some stockings and garters and that type of thing, something that you feel attractive in, (don't mention to your dh, surprise him).

If you are not sure how to "present" yourself in it, put on play act for a minute or two. Have a glass of wine for courage, then come out with your robe on and your "surprise" underneath and tell dh innocently that you bought some new stockings and can't get the back one fastened.

If you had some tearing during the birth, then sex will be different, because some of your nerve endings may have been damaged. Your best bet is to spend some time exploring yourself and finding what feels good where, then passing the knowledge onto your H.