to think that sons of single mums make good partners?

[darleneconnor]

A common theme on the threads where women complain about the lack of housework/childcare their DPs do is that they gew up with Mums who spent their lives servicing them and their Dads.

I know I'm going on a small sample size but the men I know who've been raised by single Mums are much more self-sufficient and self-servicing in the domestic sense than men who've been raised witnessing the traditional male breadwinner/female homemaker roles.

Has anyone else noticed this or is it just a blip?

I have brought up my DSs alone,- while talking to my 21 yr old DS1 last weekend he stated "mum, you brought me up too well!"
this was because his male student mates go out at weekends 'on the pull',(as to be expected)- but my DS1 won't do that.He has respectful relationships with girls, and has good female friends.

He sees a lot of things from the female prospective,also knows a lot of stuff about contraception, thrush ,cystitis etc..

However, DS2 is a lazy sod!i have fallen into the trap of 'it's quicker to do things myself, then nag him for 2 hours'.

I think a single mother/son relationship is intense,purely because there is no other adult in the home, to talk to,or emotionally help out.. So theoretically the DS of a single mum should understand women a bit better..but it doesn't mean he necessarily knows how the washing machine works!

No having parents in a healthy loving relationship is one of teh best things that can happen to a child.Their life prospects are statistically better on every count.

My DP is the son of a single mum and he is wonderful around the house. He does far more housework than I do, loves cooking, and is fantastic with the kids in the family.

My brothers were also raised by a single mum but are completely useless (though lovely).

I think the difference is simply that my DP was expected to do a lot for himself from a young age (he used to cook and tidy before his mum came home and she gave him a lot of freedom), whilst my brothers have always just waited until my mum did stuff for them. They still don't cook their own meals, at the ages of 19 and 23

YABU It depends on the type of upbringing not whether the son was from a single parent mother or not.

My first boyfriend was the only child of a single mother. he was a selfish, lazy, useless cunt. Sat on his arse and says make me tea! We used to eat lunch in the University park sometimes and he'd take the wrapper off his sandwiches and dump it on my lap to dispose of, just like a child does.

Totally incapable of looking after himself as he so badly molly coddled by his mother.

Needless to say I got rid pretty quickly

My second BF on the other hand, two parent family with an older brother. He was great, very domesticated.

YABU.

Dh from a 'couple' household, mum doing a lot of the work as a SAHM during the day.

He does more than I do.