to want to spend the evening with my friends..

[orangekitkat]

but not their friends too?
Have had a good friendship with a neighbour for a couple of years. For the last 2/3 years we have spent bonfire night together, always been a laugh - kids end up scared stiff by fireworks so we all end up inside with a couple of beers (not the kids!) chatting/watching tv.
Recently, we have not seen so much of each other, playdates get cancelled etc.

We were surprised, but pleased to be invited over tonight but found out yesterday that they have invited some other friends, who I know vaguely (but not her DH and my DH doesn't know either of them).
It's a bit 2s company 3s a crowd sort of thing for me - was looking forward to a relaxed, fun evening together.
Am I wrong to feel a bit sad?

can't you see it as an opportunity to potentially make new friends, as well as to rekindle an old relationship?

if you aren't having a good time make excuses and leave early.

Yabu and anti social IMO

It isn't a couples evening it's a bonfire.

I suppose I feel upset because in the past it has been a couples evening. It's how different people do things I guess. We have lots of different groups of friends that get together at birthdays or parties but wouldn't really invite say, a school friend and a work friend over at the same time to something a bit more intimate. Maybe that's just me - bit left brained, like to keep things compartmentalised!

I think if there were a few going it wouldn't feel so personal but it's only the 3 couples.

you are allowed to feel any way you want to, but I would try to go with an open mind. I LIKE to meet new people in situations like this.

If you want an evening alone with your friends, you should invite them to your house.

As much as you want things to be the way it used to be, clearly (cancelled playdates, etc.) it isn't anymore, but at least they have invited you over. Having said that, you've been invited to their house, you can have no say whatsoever or comment on who else they choose to invite.

Think you have it minibmw2010. Things have changed (I really don't know why) and I've been feeling sad and confused about that. Of course they can invite who they like to their house and in the time or two I've met the other friends they are nice. It's the latest in a long line of cancellations/changes to plans and I think I have to accept I'm not as 'special' as I used to be :(

Nowt to do with me of course, but you watch telly when you are socialising

ha ha!! The kids do!!!! We do the chatting!

oh no, that sounds awful now I've just read it back! We do play with our children! Just when it's late and they are tired we get chance for a sit down in a warm room altogether to have a glass (milk/wine as appropriate, )before it's home for pjs and bed.

YANBU. I know someone like this. I like to spend my time with my friends and have a good chat and feel that if I need to discuss something personal then I can. Sometimes it feels like an open free for all and I then feel guilty if I only talk to my friends as the others may be feeling left out so I try and include them too.

Although I have actually made a couple of other friends this way so its not all bad but now I want to stick to the friends I have.