i've been reading around on here for a while and spotted a couple of threads which have made me wonder (not intended in a nasty way) why more people don't stick up for themselves when it comes to dealing with unreasonable people
example: the thread from the lady 2 weeks after first baby being dragged around shops and having to entertain her MIL including meals, when all she wants to do is lay in bed and cuddle her little one?
another example: the thread from the lady explaining that she's due in early December and her in-laws are moaning about the fact that she can't commit to a Christmas Day plan (baby might be late, might need a cs, her H can't drive).
i constantly read threads on here from people who feel "duty bound" to do XYZ, or are guilt-ridden into doing something. sad to say but it's usually family!
WTF?
Am I the only person sitting here screaming "stick up for yourself damnit!" AIBU to want to show these ladies that they don't need to be a doormat, they can decline the request for a favour and JUST SAY NO! once in a while. they would be happier for it!
i know - my in-laws were quite unreasonable when i first met them. having had to stick up for myself, the relationship isn't going to ever be too warm,but i sense they have a little bit more respect for me these days after i was having a hard time at work, my own father was ill, 2 years ago, and i just snapped and started to say "i need to think about ME for once"...
no i won't car share with you because i like the relaxing quiet time on the way to work... no i won't accept your parcels during the day if the same neighbour gives me suspicious looks when i explain one hasn't been delivered to me EVEN if there's a card saying it's across the road...
so! AIBU to think we should all have a "sod it, what do i want" attitude sometimes? it has to balance out, but i mean, we would all be happier 