to want to know who has given DS his first haircut, without asking me?!

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DS has beautiful curly hair. It's has been getting a bit long and earlier this week I noticed that there is one particular curl that has been getting in his eyes sometimes.

I must admit that I've although been meaning to cut I had been a bit slow to get round to it. I know it's silly but it's his first haircut and I wanted to do it when DP was here too. It wasn't that bad though! It was only one curl that needed cutting, and I was going to keep it with his baby book.

I noticed today that someone else has cut his hair! Quite a bit at the front. It could only be DP (he says not), our CM or someone at the CMs.

I'm trying to tell myself it's only hair, and I'm being PFB, but it's not working!

I'm really annoyed and feel a bit violated. I know in the grand scheme of things it really isn't that important, but I'd never think of cutting someone else's child's hair without asking!

I'll be surprised if the CM did it TBH - AFAIK we have a good relationship, I've always felt we can communicate about things fine. She's a lovely lady and I can't imagine here just cutting his hair - surely she'd say something. Maybe someone else at her house though?

Grrr!

AIBU for being really quite about this and wanting to get to the bottom of it?!

omg i would be fuming if someone had cut any of my boys' hair without asking me!

do update when you find the culprit!

I would be mad!

Trinity BTW I'm not keen on your name change -why the twatty? I'm sure you're not!!

A close friend cut my dds fringe in the summer when she was looking after her for me! I was fuming but let it go as she has two boys and was really looking forward to having two dds for the day.

I would never dream of doing it!

personally, I wouldn't be that bothered TBH - it'll grow back. Though to be honest, I wouldn't have dared cut someone else's child's hair so YANBU, but maybe need to chill.

YANBU, I was livid and still am livid when people cut my dd's hair without my permission.

YANBU. I too would have been furious.

My CM did cut DS's hair at one point, because I told her how hysterical he got at the barbers. She offered, I accepted.

By all means ask her, but if she can see how upset you are, she may feel too scared to confess so go easy on her

YANBU- my FIL cut DD2 hair so her fringe was really really short.I was absolutely livid..they didnt even tell us..DH called them to ask and then they said they did it.
Apparently the hair was getting in her eyes...why not put a clip in?

I hope you get ot the bottom of it

I had a 2 yr old mindee, who once who hacked cut his own fringe!!
Thankfully it was while he was at his grandmas..

I'm not really upset, I'm not going to go in all guns blazing! I do know it's only hair! But still, I want to know how it came about.

I've had time to think about it now, and it's the principle of it more than anything. I would never dream of doing this to someone else's child, and I want to know who thinks they can do this to my child without asking. There are certain barriers you don't cross, and this I feel is one of them?

If whoever did this doesn't respect me as a parent on this issue - what else is going on when I'm not there? What other boundaries which I think are perfectly common sense might be crossed?

My DH decided to trim DS' fringe and he moved and it looked an absolute mess. I'd repeatedly told him I didn't want his hair cut - i was not at all happy. If it was someone other than him I'd have been furious. I think you're right, it's not even the hair, it's the belief that they have the right to do this without your permission.

Good luck in finding the culprit and staying calm.

YANBU my son had lovely blonde curls and at 2yrs my dad took him to the local barber for a haircut without telling anyone(he thought this a big adventure for them both)I went ballistic as barber only has one cut,a no 2 on the clippers also I had wanted to do the first and felt cheated.

My dd2 did this to dd3 when she was about 4 and dd3 was 1.
DD3 had beautiful red hair that sat in ringlets ...gorgeous. Was forvever getting compliments about her hair.

DD2 was ....so she cut dd3`s hair off in chunks with paper sissors.

Poor dd3 had a close cropped bit near where her fringe had been.It took ages to grow back. .

Yanbu ....but its probably been another child , rather than the cm .

I would be livid as well. No-one else has the right to cut your childs hair - first hair cut or 40th!!

However, if it was another child I would be annoyed I'd 'lost' the first curl, but not upset/annoyed with the child (or carer).

Did you find out?

When we had a nannyshare, the nanny did once cut other toddler's fringe. Parents annoyed but not livid. I was rather on nanny's side - the fringe was interfering with toddler's vision and the nanny had pointed this out. Doing it out of the blue not ok.