to tell MIL where to go on the 'are you trying for a girl' Q?

[sandyfeet]

We have 2 boys who I wouldn't change for anything. However my MIL keeps asking 'when are you trying for a girl'. I get very and at this as it sounds like one or more of my boys aren't wanted or aren't good enough.

To make matters more complicated we are TTC DC#3. I am very sure that we want another DC and genuinely have no preference as to girl or boy - tbo would be v if it was a girl given our boys!

Am already gearing up for my response to her questions and feel me making comments on the line of 'well naturally if its another boy we will ebay it' are probably not very helpful, but can hear it coming out...

Any suggestions?

Sandyfeet, I'd say we'll be delighted with another boy, if it's a girl maybe we could get it adopted! (only joking obviously).

Hijack - Midori so delighted to hear you're pregnant, I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you both. Good luck.

YANBU - why are people like this? I'm days away from DC2's due date and, as we already have a DD, it is assumed that we a) want a boy and b) will have a DC3 pronto if we have another girl.

FIL has already told us we'd "better have a boy".

My MIL (who is ok most of the time) once said to me, "At least I had one or each" as if it was some sort of achievement. It just amazes me that people actually think like this. It just shows up their ignorance

one of each

I feel your pain. I have 2 DDs and when DD2 was born, my mother's exact words were "oh well, never mind" She is now constantly hinting and trying to find out whether we intend to have another baby, and even regularly comments about DDs "future baby brother"

When I was pregnant she was convinced DC2 would be a boy, to the point where she was even talking to DD1 about her baby brother in mummy's tummy! I guess her thinking was that I would have one of each because that's what she had.

This is a really common thing. My first 3 DC were boys and when I was pg with my 4th baby, so many people thought it was okay to comment negatively on me having so many children. When they found out the baby was a girl, it was suddenly deemed okay and entirely understandable why I was having another DC.

I have ended up with the same number of DC whether they are boys or girls. I must admit that I am enjoying having a DD (I am shallow and love to shop) but I would have loved her just the same had she been a he,

I think you just have to put it down to the fact that people are strange, and ignore!

could you not just say a big firm "NO!" backed with a stern look and leave it at that?

YANBU - and she is very rude.

@ 'well naturally if its another boy we will ebay it'

Maybe you should say it. If you say it in a joking manner she can't take offence and it might just make her think.

I hate this too! I have 2 DDs and get sick of the 'will you try for a boy..?' comments. My MIL too was convinced DD2 was a boy and didn't hide her disappointment at yet another granddaughter (her 6th!)

A friend of mine (with no kids yet) keeps asking doesn't DH want a 'son and heir'?! Apparrently when they have kids they are having boys because that's what her DH wants- like you can choose?!

Def go ahead with the ebay comment!

i have 3 ds and then a dd. Strangely people have stopped commenting on when i'll have another

Its very annoying, but try not to let it get to you. It doesnt matter. Next time she asks just say, "your son's nads determine that, better have a chat with them"

she's just old, humour her and don't take it to heart. you know you will get what you are given and like it!