To be annoyed that DS's school are insisting that they stay after school every Tuesday till 4 fir some sort of 'enrichment' programme?

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I don't think its on tbh, for a start they send mist of their anyway, secondly he goes for tea at my mums on a Tuesday which he loves, and thirdly, its practically dark by then and he has to walk home.

They spend most if their lives there anyway* (stupid phone typos)

It doesn't sound as though you're being unreasonable at all. Is it compulsory then?

I don't know what 'send mist of their' means though.

ah. x post

LOL at phone typos they're annoying aren't they!

Anyway YANBU I reckon, surely they can't insist on all children staying outside school hours?

What time would he normally finish?

Yes, compulsory. My phone has a mind of its own :)

How old are they?

It depends entirely upon what it is they are offering.
If they are offering something valuable thatis not available during the school day then why not.
DS1s school does extra time on a Monday and they can chose activities like tai chi or drama or cookery. I think it is great.
can't he go to your mums on a different day?

How old is he?

Very annoying he normally finishes at 3. I dint see how they can be allowed to do this really.

Not compulsory unless they have extended the school day for all children. If you don't want them to go, refuse.

He is 11 only just started in September. Sometimes he can to my mums on a Wednesday but not always. I think it would be fine if he wanted to stay, not be told he has to.

Just say no. The school is not the ultimate authority when it comes to your children - you are!

Personally, I think regular time spent with an (obviously) much-loved grandparent is far more enriching than anything the school can offer.

I sent a note yesterday asking him to excuse him as we have plans, she apparently said " I'll let you off this once, but in future I'll need ta better explanation than 'plans'"

Totally agree rhinestone

I'm with pagwatch. It depends on what they are offering. They are probably trying to encourage take up by telling the kids they must do it. If they offer a choice and there is really nothing he wants to do, try speaking to his year tutor about it directly.

What will they be doing? It would be a shame to miss out if they are teaching somthing amazing.

bloody hell. he finishes at 3 ?

Ds did 8.30 til 4.00 at 11
DD does 8.20 until 3.40 and she is 8

If he was 7 or 8 I would agree with you. But walking home on your own at 11 is hardly Dickensian.

having said that I would still want to know whatthey planned

If everyone has to do it then it's not exactly 'staying after school' is it? It's more 'school runs til 3 Mon/Weds/Thurs/Fri and til 4 on Tues'

You need to be more forceful and explain that your DS cannot commit to any activities out of school time. End of. (Agree about finding out what they are offering though and asking if he has an interest)

Does everyone stay? If so, am with Trillian.

And DS1 loves his grandma. But tea with grandma after school at age 11? Instead of rugby or drama or Cadets?
Er - no

Omg pag ds is 840 till 3 dd is 850 till 3 15

Also at 'needing a better explanation than "plans" '.

No, no, no teacher - it is none of your business what looylou's DS does outside school.

LL - if you want to settle this once and for all, contact your Local Education Authority and ask them what the school's official hours are. Then inform teacher that you've done this and any further harassment form her about your DS's life outside of school and you'll be submitting a formal complaint.

from her, not form her!

Bit out of order pag. He does plenty of 'boy' stuff but he also enjoys seeing his man on a Tuesday. Really can't see the problem