To want to slap the ...the person who wrote this?

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I cant believe how many so called mums claim they need to go back to work and feel so guilty about it. when you have a child,that should be your job,your one priority until that child is at school. you have a responsibility to develop and teach that child in all
aspects of their life-, morally,emotionally,socially. This should not be left to anyone else-it is your job. Children who are dumped from a young age are insecure,unhappy and from what I have seen,generally quite spiteful and selfish. they develop these selfish characters from being dumped somewhere,basically on their own,without their mum being there to fight their corner, and I can usually tell a child who has been 'nursery raised' as they have a ruthless manner around other kids, snatching etc.
It is so sad that our generation are not providing for our children what they need at such an early and vulnerable time of their life.
Your children are at home for such a short time. make them the priority,not the luxuries.
you have the rest of your life to provide your children with the good things in life-they dont need them now,and they wont even remember them. What they need now is their mum.
And to the mum who claimed she would go crazy at home-how sad, why did you have kids if not to enjoy spending time with them?
I could not imagine someone else telling me about my childs development,first steps,first words etc. -thats a mums duty and right to be there at these times.
I urge you working mums to find a way to be at home with your children-you only get one chance.your children need you ant they deserve you

Seriously! Have you ever seen such appalling punctuation and sentence construction in your life? Definitely requires a slap.

Don't think much of the sentiments either, but if you are going to rattle on like that, at least do it properly.

YANBU - clearly her mother didn't stay at home and help her learn to read and write and so she wants to change history hun so that all kids hun have the same hunny ejumakashun.

YABU - my child is going to have to develop a good selfish, mean-spirited attitude to deal with life's numpties like this. QED.

Valpolicella - you mean you don't literally open the nursery door, hurl your child through and run away yelling "byeeeeeee"?

I don't think you are getting quite as much out of the nursery experience as you could. I can be half a mile down the road, in a cafe with a nice cup of tea before the nursery door even closes.

OP - this person is not worth a second thought. People like her form their views and opinions on the basis that the only life experience that is valid is their own. In doing so they miss out on so many opportunities to widen their horizons and their understanding of the world. Feel sorry for her for being so restricted.

I find the hysterical cackling over the lack of capitalization and punctuation of the 'post non grata' so very amusing indeed.

Ever so conveniently it is forgotten, how little respect towards grammar is shown by so many around here, mostly those, who never venture to dismount their wooden wobbly horses[yaawn]

Had the poster in question added a few mouthfuls of profanities, most whingers would surely feel more accepting.
What a strange pool of characters this forum draws.

In principal, I agree with Xenia. However, sweeping statements never work, the issue is much too complex.

I agree that someone who has no career to speak of, either due to young age/lack of qualifications/etc., would be better advised to continue working if at all possible as dependence on partner can pay very painful dividends, if things go pearshape.

However, if the stay-home-partner has their own independent means of income (i.e property/investments/etc) and can afford the career break, then staying home with children is really the best for all concerned.

The most selfish and spiteful child I know actually happens to be the only child of a SAHM. Closely followed by another child I know who is the youngest boy of two children, also of a SAHM. So that theory is as good as mine could be, based on what I have seen and observed. Hardly scientific, is it?

I find the working mum vs SAHM spite very unhelpful, especially as most women would have done both and been in both camps at some point (like me) and can really appreciate both sides of the fence.

I think people need to realise that well adjusted children are the result of a happy, well balanced home - this has nothing to do with whether mum works or not, it's all to do whether the parents are happy and can make the children feel secure and loved.

So yes OP, slap away!!! :)

Aww did somebodies mummy go back to work early to get away from this horror?

And only home for such a short time? Bollocks, years on end is not a short time.

A wise mother of 4 (who happens to WOHM and is also my best friend) said to me "what matters is the first time you see your child walk/hear them say a word/or any other "first."

And all her kids, and my own, are extremely pleasant, sociable, friendly, unlselfish, considerate and caring. And that's not just me saying it - that is what his school says. :) (and 2 of her kids are grown up now and are wonderful, mature and sensitive young adults whose company I enjoy)

I'm not going to let uneducated comments from spiteful people who have no respect for other people's choices (like the person quoted in the OP) make me feel guilty with my own choices.

Strangely enough, the only two children I would go anywhere near describing as "spiteful and selfish" (horrible words for describing pre-schoolers by the way) in DD's class have SAHMs. But luckily like most people I'm far too well educated to start making causal links based on such a small sample size.

"what matters is the first time you see your child walk/hear them say a word/or any other "first."

So true

I dumped all mine in nursery as I had the misfortune of having to earn a living as well. They are, of course, selfish, horrible monsters who attack other, more fortunate children.However, they do know how to punctuate, which is far more important!
Is it grammatically incorrect to call OP a deluded, pig-ignorant moron?

She was/still is my guru on all parenting matters! (her husband's not bad either!)

... the only problem is she lives in North Wales and I live in Glasgow..... :(

Was this written by Oliver James before he had chance to run it past his editors?

The precious moments idea is so silly, anyway. Even if you are a SAHM, you still have to go to the dentist / doctor / shops by yourself from time to time and your child could decide to take their first step / say first word etc. when you are momentarily absent. FGS, it might happen when you are going to the loo.

Nobody can be with their child ALL the time.

Screw the punctuation. This woman needs help. "so called mums". So I guess that the word "Mum" no longer means, "women who is biologically or legally the female parent of a child" then but in fact means, "women who stays home with her children and subsumes her entire life to their desires."