AIBU in thinking that DH could get out of his beeping bed and help

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This is a minor issue but its bugging me. I am a SAHM. Dh works FT. Every morning I get up at 7 to leave at 8.20 and have a stressed 1 hour and 20 minutes of trying to co-erce my 2 year old and 5 year old to get fed, dressed and ready for the school run. I organise what I can the night before but its the usual thing with this age group - selective hearing, playing after I have asked them to do something, fighting over every bloody thing. Meanwhile, DH lays in bed. I know hes awake because no one could sleep though that commotion. I dont want to get up earlier as the DCs need their sleep so I want DH to help. As in take DCS downstairs for breakfast whilst I get dressed. Then I just need to get them dressed whilst he showers, etc. He refuses and just lays in bed until about 7.45 at which point he gets up and sorts himself out before going to work. He faffs about alot so is often late which is equally annoying. AIBU in expecting him to help out on school days?

No you're not. I think he's just being lazy and doesn't want to get involved in the morning rush.

In our house DH and I get up at the same time and I get showered and ready whilst DH and DS are downstairs making me tea and getting breakfast. We then swap.

Works well and means the workload is shared.

nope YANBU, mine does.

When exH used to get up with the DS's in the mornings I really did go back to sleep

Have you asked him to get up?

If he's late, sounds like he's hiding out until the worst is over. Sounds like he ought to get up earlier but is avoiding doing so.

Seriously though, would he help properly, are you sure he would not just get in the way? think about it?

Does your 2yo need to go out? or is that only because you take them on the school run too?

If the 5yo is the priority, then get them ready first, straight after breakfast.

Could DH then dress the 2yo?

Or seeing as uniforms are easy enough, could he do the 5yo while you get the 2yo sorted?

They are his DC too, you could do with a hand, he could do with getting up earlier, you could help each other. Done ask him will you, ask him which one he can manage while you do the other one. Tell him you'll pay him in kind if it helps

Establish and communicate a simple and easy structure to your mornings, breakfast, change, Mum gets ready, they watch telly. Out you go. It's what I had to switch too, cos it works better that way, for me.

Deep breaths, it's trial and error with school mornings!

Mine does exactly the same and we both go out to work, but on his days off in the week he has to take them to school. He will never change unless you change him, I have given up on that and just get on with it without moaning. But I now arrange things to do in the evening out of the house so I can have time to myself.