to be so utterly disappointed..

[TheFantasticFixit]

..that we have had to postpone our wedding?

I know that in the grand scheme of things it is pretty minor but I am so disappointed that we have had to do it.

Our landlords have decided to sell our flat as they need a bigger place and obviously the proceeds from the sale will help them with their next step. Unfortunately, less than 3 weeks ago we had booked our wedding for next August - and with the impending rent increase (we have been very lucky to enjoy a fixed rate here for the last 2 years - we are looking at about another £200-400 per month to bring us in line with the current market), final bills and moving costs we just can't afford to also fund a wedding within 10 months.

This time last year I was made redundant on the cusp of us TTC and obviously we had to postpone those ideas - I'm so frustrated and disappointed that everytime we try and take the next step in our lives our world comes crashing around our ears and our plans delayed. I'm 30 next feb and that clock is ticking as loud as a train in my ears. I'm desperate to be a mum and to be my fiance's wife (goodness, that sounds twee and I'm not twee AT ALL)

ARGH! I know I sound like a moaning, whinging pathetic tw*t ...go on, give me a dose of reality...

You don't have to spend a fortune to get married though. If you want to be married, then pop to the registry office and book a slot for next month. If you want a *wedding" though......

agree with PT
Don't put your life on hold.

You, him, two witnesses down the registry office. You can always throw a party for everyone else when you have some spare cash.

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TheFantasticFixit-I am in the same boat as we were going to get married in September but redundancies but paid to that. We've decided to just go for it next Summer, regardless. There will always be something that will crop up but bugger it, you only live once. We'll be having a much smaller 'do' though as the whole redundancy thing has made us wary of blowing a fortune for a single day.

You don't need to cancel your wedding. Have a wedding that doesn't cost a small fortune. I can never understand why people pay so much for weddings.

Costs:
Give notice before registering a marriage or civil partnership £33.50
Register a marriage or civil partnership at a register office £40.00
Cost of marriage or civil partnership certificate on the day £3.50
www.direct.gov.uk/en/Governmentcitizensandrights/Registeringlifeevents/Marriagesandcivilpartnerships/DG_175715

Plus the cost of the venue. Church is obviously more expensive than a registry office.

You don't need to be married to have children but I can't see that if you can't afford a fork out a couple of hundred quid to get married that you can afford to fork out thousands to have children either.

If your expectations don't meet your budget then make your expectations more realistic so they do. Simples.

YANBU to feel disappointed.

However...the best wedding I have ever attended was held in a church hall. We all went down 2 days before and helped decorate, arrange flowers etc. Everyone contributed something (time, food, money for flowers) depending on our means. It was a real privilege to be part of it.

What about calling on your friends and family? Let them know how you feel and I'm sure they would help.

yanbu, can understand this would be quite disappointing but agree with the other posters maybe try to still do it with a lower budget then you could still do it @ the time you want

The wedding industry is great at convincing folk what material things are "necessary" for it to be "special".
I totally agree with the idea of looking at alternative venues - someone I know got married in a youth hostel, which was great as everyone could stay over on the wedding night. Church hall, scout hut, whatever - all can be the scene for a fantastic wedding, which could still be very formal if that's what you wanted (the venue only provides a backdrop which is quickly forgotten).
The problem with putting it off is that there will ALWAYS be something which crops up unexpectedly. If you can let go of your "dream wedding" and think of a marraige instead it will all fall into place.

It is inevitable that you will disappointed, but you can either postpone or do it cheaper. We have been engaged for 5 years because we just don't have even the small amount of dosh stated above spare - there are always more important things (usually school uniform at the moment - DS keeps growing!). It's not the end of the world.