To have expected a call from the school?

[Dancergirl]

Picked the dds up from school today to be met by a miserable dd1 who said she wasn't feeling well. Generally achy and fluey etc.

Came home, she went straight to bed, didn't want anything to eat.

She started feeling unwell at the end of the morning and didn't eat much lunch. She told her teacher at the beginning of the afternoon who said she could sit outside with a drink which she did and she spent the rest of the day sitting reading quietly in the classroom feeling pretty miserable.

Now I'm not an over-protective mum at all and my children are hardly ever ill, but in this case I would have liked a call from the school so I could have gone to get her from school so she could go to bed.

AIBU? Her class teacher is the same teacher who didn't call the parents during a residential camping trip when a child had a bad sickness bug (bug was eventually spread round the class, my dd included).

I would have wanted them to call me so I could make the decision iyswim.

Just a DD not too well, sitting reading quietly do you want to come and get her??

Some of them leave it unless the child is burning up or throwing up...I would say something. I would say that you don't mind a call if DD is unwell....and that she is very under the weather....maybe some of them are a bit backwars about calling because so many parents are in work. Mind you...a woman in my DD's school was phoned because her DS was throwing up and she said she could not come as her car was still in the garage!

The woman lives about 2 miles away and could have got a cab! She's loaded! I was on behalf of her little boy who had to sit by a bucket all afternoon!

To be honest with you, teachers can never do the right thing in this situation. Some parents complain if you don't call them soon enough, some complain that you've called them and their child gets home and seems fine. Some kids are good at faking it, while others who are ill valiantly get on with their work and don't complain until they get home. So I have some sympathy with the teacher I'm afraid, but then I'm probably biased because I am one myself. I once did 2 terms supply work in a class of 5 and 6 year olds, and on about my second day there one child complained she didn't feel well. I didn't really know this child by then, but my teaching assistant said she quite often was upset coming into school, and was probably alright. The child kept complaining so I did call for mum before the end of the day. That night mum rang the school asking to speak to me and was cross that I hadn't called her sooner as child said she'd been ill all day and I hadn't listened. I, of course, felt terrible, but I had taken advice about the situation and was told the child was often a bit miserable at school and was probably trying it on with a new teacher. Anyway, fortunately once I got to know that child better she never was miserable at school with me (don't know if TA had been exaggerating or what) and her mum and I were quite friendly by the end of the year! But, another time when I sent a child home who was unwell the mother complained the next day that there was nothing wrong with him and she shouldn't have been called! So, you see, we can't win!

Usually these days I go for, the child has to have told me they don't fell well a couple of times and while I have been monitoring them they have also seemed unwell. ie if they are shrieking and running around in the playground I don't call home, but if they are sitting quietly on a bench by themselves then I do!

Also, with regard to the fact that the teacher didn't call when a child was sick on a residential trip, it is not uncommon for kids to be physically sick with a bit of homesickness, so that's probably what the teachers thought it was and hoped to be able to cheer the child up with lots of nice activities.

I agree - you can't win if you're the teacher.

My DD was on a coach which had an accident and the only reason I knew about it was through my DD telling me. Not a dicky bird from the music service. Now, that made me