problems with the relatives...

[Spanky100]

Me and dp are supposed to be off to north england soon for a day out.
But he wants to pop in and say hello to some relatives of his as they will be very cross and offended if we don't say hello seeing as we were in the area.

AIBU to be actually quite cross about this?
We could arrange to see them pretty much anytime, why do they 'expect' us to come and see them just because we are in the surrounding area?

This was meant to be our day out!
To just expect someone to come and visit purely because they are in the area even if they are having a good time doing something else seems so rude and disrespectful to me!

ESPECIALLY when we could just ring and invite them round for dinner or coffee or something at another time to suit us!

Feel like their spoiling our day :(

yes this sort of thing annoys me too
We're going within 100 miles of X so we should pop in

Although I don't understand how you could invite them for coffee when they live miles away??

How about just not telling them

if you don't see them much how the fuck would they know?

YABU... It will be nothing to do with relatives being 'cross and offended' and more because he'd like to see them if you've travelled to 'north england'. Why is it so awful to be sociable?

And exactly how would they even know you were in the area? Is your DP worried they have CCTV all over the area to look out for relatives who come but don't visit

Of course YANBU!!

How will your relatives know you're in the area?

How often do you see them, and how close are they?

Glad i'm not the only one!

I meant we could ring them and arrange a day out with them in their area and drink coffee and have a chat and such.

Euphemia i will try that, thank you.

They might know because i accidently let slip that we were going there over dinner when we had family round and dp is worried one of them might tell them.

If it was only 1 day out then YANBU. Why spoil a day out just to appease his relatives.

We go on holiday near to where my aunt lives and we always go and see her. TBH I don't know why I bother. She is difficult and is often very 'off' with me due to her jealously with my close relationship with my nan (her mum). My DH always asks why we need to go and see her and I say it would be rude not to seeing as the holiday camp is 10 minutes from her house, but he has a point. I would feel rude though.

Not sure I care anymore though and next time I will think about DH's feelings too as it is his holiday as well. Plus it gives me a great excuse not to see her (she won't know DH said anything).