to just ask for it back

[MrsMoosickle]

I always seem to be posting some money related topics on here.....but anyway...what do you think?

I lent a good friend some cash when she had forgotten her purse and was at the hairdressers. That was 6 weeks ago and although she has mentioned it a couple of times, has never actually coughed up.

AIBU to gently remind her and txt my account details?

Take her hair in lieu of payment.

Haha.....Why didn't I think of that?

meet for lunch, 'forget' your purse so she has to pay for you both and tell her you'll pay her back what you owe her (minus her debt to you)when you next see her. And then keep forgetting.

How much was it that you lent her?

Great idea cupcakes!

Ask her to pick something up from a particular shop if she mention a planned visit, and quickly add 'just take it out of the money you owe me from the hairdressers'

I dont think reminding is unresonable texting account details imo is

Its around the 80.00 mark.....i think she struggled to pay me back last month ( so avoided contact) and is following suit again this month.

Annoying!

Just text her, tell her you could do with it, got a few bills all at once, if shes embarrassed cos she doesnt have it, she can at least hide behind a text, i know its bad, but shes maybe trying to save face by avoiding you

That's not a small amount of money. I don't think YABU for asking for it back.

I don't think it's unreasonable at all to ask for the money back. I'd do the same, if she asked to borrow money and you agreed, then simples...she should pay you back.

If purse was actually just forgotten, then she could have transfered money the same day. 6 weeks is verging on taking the piss.

If she couldn't afford the purchase and wanted you to sub her until she had more money, she should have been honest about it from the start.

Text her :) maybe not your account details though! £80 IS a lot, could you mention half now half next month if you think she is struggling? And make it out that you yourself are desperate as someone else has said?

I agree she is taking the piss; if she had planned to have her hair done and just forgot her purse, surely she had that £80 put aside for her hair anyway?

I would text her, tell her you need the money and could she please pay it back to you asap.

Snort @ TethHearseEnd

Everyone has had great ideas of asking her to get something and then subtracting the money she owes you.

I would do that, or maybe drop subtle hints (like bricks) that you need the money this month.

Where were you when she asked for the money? Did she bump intoyou before going into the haordressers? I ask, as it seems that if she is has a problem paying you back, could she have maniuplated the situation in order to 'borrow' the money she didnt actually have anyway, off you? As others have said, £80 is a lot of money and its totally unfair that she has waited this long and not paid you back. i would never dream of doing that! If I owe a friend a tenner for a cab fare, I make it my priority to pay them back the next time I see them within a week at the latest.

Just ask her. If you're willing to be lent money then you should be fine being asked for it back.

Just out of interest, were you at the hairdressers together, or did she ring you to come and sub her when she realised she'd forgotten her purse?

Agree that she is BVU; as Frazzledmum says, she must surely have had the £80 set aside anyway.

Do you think she has genuinely forgotten? In cases like this I generally do say something because I always think that if it was the other way round and I owed the money, I would be mortified! So I would be grateful to be reminded.