to want DC2 straight away

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So the midwife asks what contraception we'll be using and I say none. She laughs and puts "undecided" on the form.

I'm serious, I want my babas to be close in age, I want baba no2 straight away!

AIBU??

not at all, small gaps are tough but soooo worth it.

Bear in mind though if you're bf-ing it could still take a while. I got pregnant with no period after dd and there's still 18 months between her and ds1! That was the quickest my fertility returned, after ds1 it was 12 months and after ds2 a whopping 17 months

I am b/f, but so did my mum with me (1 year 15 days between me and my sister) and her mum with her (1 year 9 days between my mum and aunty) :)

ooo I was really counting on having an 18 month age gap second time round, I didn't realise the fertility gap could increase. Did you have to stop bfing altogether SummerRain?

YANBU to want babies close together, ideally and YANBU to make your own decisions re. contraception but why not give it a few months before you decide?

porcupine... after ds1 it took me until he was 20 months to convince dp about another so it wasn't an issue... i would have loved a closer gap but had to wait til dp came round to the idea of a third. He fed until the week before ds2 was born.

ds2 is still feeding (20 months) and i have no plans for another, 3 is enough for our family

YANBU - Your body, your decision (and obvs DP/H) end of.
I fell pregnant 8 weeks afer DC1 was born, whilst BFing and on contracepives, it's incredibly hard work whilst pregnant, but so worth it now.

YANBU.

However - and sorry about even mentioning it, it is of course entirely up to you and your DH - there is good evidence that pregnancies conceived more than 6 months after the previous one ended are less likely to end in premature birth.

Just a thought.

And I say this as a mother of 4 DSs, the first 2 of which were 12 months and 10 days apart and DS2 was born at 31 weeks. There is no way of knowing whether things would have been different if he had been conceived later, but I do wonder about it... It had taken us 5 years to make DS1 and I was 37 at the time, so we just wanted to 'let nature take its course', just did not bank on it taking its course quite so swiftly [hgrin]. And, yes, I was also BFing...

Ha ha ha!

Apparently the hormones make you feel like that, i desperatley wanted another baby when ds was small, but he is 2 and i'm not planning another any time soon, the gap between him and dd was 20 months and that was a killer enough.

Seriously though, its your choice but i would recommend that you let your body recover a little from the whole pregnancy and birth thing. Definately wait until after your 6/8 week check up, until bfing is well established etc.

I had a 14 month gap between 2 & 3 love it but honestly it was a big toll on my body so please give yourself a few months before getting pregnant again.

I have 16 months between my eldest 2. Literally stopped bf and got pregnant same month. It was planned, but I very nearly ended up having a tattoo across my forehead to that effect!

i was VERY broody when DD was small, but i would say it is much better physically and emotionally for you and the children concerned to wait until the baby is at least 6 months.
morning sickness with a 3 month old would not be much fun either!