to think they could have invited us too?

[sims2fan]

I'm a little bit annoyed, because I have had a boring weekend, just like all my weekends tend to be, have no plans for tonight, and have just been on Facebook where my SIL's status talks about her having a party tonight, and she is looking forward to having nice food and seeing 'family.' Now her family consists of her parents, a sister and a brother (who is married to me). As far as I know my husband hasn't been invited, so probably my other SIL and PIL are going, and just not us. We get on well with both my husband's sisters, so it's not like we are hated (I hope!!). I just think she hasn't thought to invite us, which actually I think is pretty rude if she is then going to talk about it on Facebook! It's not the first time this kind of thing has happened. She'll talk on FB about how she had a great time shopping with her mum and sis, and I read it and feel a bit down, thinking, 'why couldn't she ask me along sometimes?' I know I'm not actually her sis, so I don't expect her to include me in absolutely everything, but some of the time would be nice. I'm not one to invite myself to things, and I'm also not one to say anything about how I felt left out. The one time I did actually contact her to say I was within a few minutes of her house and could I pop in to see her she replied that her sis and mum were coming over and they were going out for lunch, but if I was still around in a couple of hours maybe I could see her then. No invite for me to join them for lunch!

So, AIBU, or what? I know obviously that she's entitled to invite whoever she likes over to parties, but I know that if it was me and I was not inviting a member of my family, but was inviting the rest, then I wouldn't mention the party on FB where I am friends wth the person I am not inviting!!

Do you think there might be a relational reason why she/ they might not want to invite you and your DH to everything? You need to both be honest and examine yourselves openly here. I wouldn't invite my SILs to anything I was organising unless I felt obliged, because they're bossy, interfering and irritating. Neither of them is particularly self-aware, so they'd always point the finger elsewhere rather than at themselves if, like you, they felt left out or upset over something.

Hope that doesn't sound accusatory - it isn't since I don't know you. I'm giving you food for thought.

"Family" doesn't mean "all members of my family" though, does it?

OP your boring weekends are nothing to do with your SIL not inviting you. do you ever invite her out for lunch? some people are just really close to their mums and sisters and have always just done lunch as those 3/4. it isn't rude not to invite you it's just that that is what they have always done and as you are not a sister it isn't something they want to include you in.

if you think she has a problem with you then you should be upfront and ask her, don't sulk about it being rude and unfair and not doing anything about it.

Why don't you invite her to visit you, or go shopping, or for lunch, or something?

Are you sure she hasn't said anything to your dh? Mine is quite capable of not passing on messages to me, or deciding himself that he doesn't want to do something and so not bothering to tell me.

I think you should check with dh. Maybe a misunderstanding and he did not mention an invite that he had declined??

How does your dh get on with his sister?

yabu to expect to be invited, but it is a bit thoughtless at best to be rubbing your nose in it by putting it on facebook. Think you need to pursue other friendships tbh.

My husband definitely wasn't invited, though when I told him about it he wasn't bothered about going anyway. He gets on well with his sisters, but I suppose them being sisters means they're a bit closer to each other than to him. Oh well, it wasn't the end of the world not going to a little party! Lol.