- some thoughts shouldn't be said aloud???

[firefliesinjune]

I just bumped into a neighbour walking her dog. She is generally very friendly and nice. In her 60s. I smiled and waved and she crossed the road to speak to me.

I was with DS who is 2.7 and DD who is 6 months.

Polite chit chat I asked how her husband was etc and she said...

"Well you haven't shifted this baby weight have you?"

She looked quite serious. I laughed and said
"No not yet" (I am having a hard time at the moment and am just eating a lot - big deal!)

"Are you actually trying? You look so different your face, your whole body" she said with a disapproving look.

(Please note she is pretty podgy herself)

At this point I wanted to poke her in the eye or die so I made an excuse and ran away.

Is it just me being sensitive? Yes I know Ive put on a fair bit of weight but FGS.

Should she have not just kept these thoughts in her head? [hsad] and [hangry]

Very rude. I didn't even start trying to lose my baby weight until DS2 was 6 months old. I didn't have the energy before that.

Rude for sure. YANBU

I am large and the mother of one of my friends lives at the corner of my street, she is in her 60s. She once said to me

"I can't understand why you are so fat, I always see you out walking."

'"Goodness , you are really rude aren't you? Not like you at all, I always thought you were such a nice lady. Did you know that this can be an early sign of Alzheimer's in older people, maybe you should see your doctor?"'

That's got my vote

Cant wait to see her again now. I might not grab her flabby bits though. Thats a bit strange

How astonishingly rude of her.

However, can I just point out that 60 is NOT THAT OLD.

I dislike rude people intensely. Especially if they then try to make it your problem if you express even the slightest indignation or offence.

If dementia is a reason it must be virillent as there are a disproportionate amount of rude people around. I do like that though.

Sounds like the lady who works in our corner shop. I went in there with DD2 when she was 12 weeks old..

Shopkeeper: haven't you had the baby yet?
Me: yes, she's right here in the buggy, look.
Shopkeeper: Oh sorry, it's just you look like you're still pregnant, hahaha
Me: ahahaha...

Not been there since!

My DM "Mary" told me I was so fat.

DS said "Have you met Mary, she always wanted to be a horse".

I love my son.

Elderly bachelor (aged 87/88) who lives across the street pointed out to me once that I could be a fine looking woman but I was after putting on a bit of weight and I should take better care of my appearance . However, he stopped me the other day and told me I was looking "smashing", so he's completely forgiven.

What is the matter with some people?! How do comments like that help anyone lose weight? What eer happened to saying "my haven't your DC grown?" Are we now in "my hasn't your arse grown?" terrority? Pretty shiity to talk that way in front of your DC too.

If someone had been that direct towards me about my weight 6 months after my baby's birth I'd have cried. Seriously.

my mum would be likely to say this to me than my mil. It is very rude, why cant people just keep these thoughts to themselves?