To get really angry when DD jumps out and scares me

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DD is 6....recently she has taken to surpising me when I least expect it....jumping out and saying "boo" in a really sharp and loud voice. Every time it is when I have been alone for some time..so totally not expecting it....the other day she did it wile I was in the bath and its horrible!

Just now I was cooking...sharp knife in hand and boiling water nearby and she did it again!

I had a terrible shock and jumped about a foot in the air....burned my hand and totally lost my temper...roared at her which I NEVER do...not really hard or anything but feel so bad!

I HAD told her previously not to do this as it's bad for me....and can be dangerous...plus I am a highly strung type...easily rattled and I think she knows this and likes the effect!

I have told her I am sorry for the scary roaring...but that she mustn't jump out on people like this...is that reasonable or is it quite acceptable to jump out on people?

My best friend and her dd have a heart condition that mean a shock like that could kill them.

YANBU-but I would say that as I´ve got a heart condition!

If you got burned I'd show her the blister

I'd say "Mummy has told you not to jump out and scare people before. Because you didn't listen Mummy got hurt. I know you didn't mean to hurt me but this is what can happen when you do things that are dangerous like that. I love you and I forgive you but you must promise to never ever jump out at people again because you can hurt people when you don't mean to. Do you promise?"

Yes, I think that should cover it

Argh I would have jumped a mile! I'm of a delicate disposition too.

When I shared a house with friends, I would constantly be shocked to come across them-such as if I was coming upstairs and someone suddenly popped out of the bathroom-I'd gasp in horror and jump out of my skin! It used to drive my friends mad.

I've also whacked DH when he made me jump really badly, it was just an instinctive reaction.

I'll be drilling it into my DDs not to make me jump. I don't mind if they do it to DH though . He can take the shock- I can't!

So YADNBU in my humble opinion.

YANBU - there is a time for play. it isn't nice to leap out at someone unsuspected. different if you have decided to play that game.