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How late is too late? WWYD?

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CountessVonKnackerstein · 30/10/2010 09:30

DH promised to come back last night at a reasonable time, ie 1am ish. As today is a family day, we have all sorts of things planned (not just me)

He doesn't know what time he got in, he slept on the sofa, he is still pissed and has poured rice crispies all over the kitchen and left a huge shit stain round the toilet. He stinks, he is staggering about.

AIBU to ask for a curfew?

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SuePurblybilt · 30/10/2010 09:31

I shouldn't think anything is BU after that. Was it a special occasion?

mistressploppy · 30/10/2010 09:33

Just point out how he's cocked the day up and suggest he figures out a way to make sure it doesn't happen again!

A curfew will make him feel like a teenager so he'll probably behave worse next time!

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CountessVonKnackerstein · 30/10/2010 09:34

This is at least every other weekend BTW.

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loubielou31 · 30/10/2010 09:34

I don't think the time he came home is the problem, It's that he is unable to join in with todays activities and has therefore spoiled the lovely things you had planned for today!! YANBU to be very very very cross with him today but I don't know what you can do about it other than do the lovely things without him and when you egt home later make him feel VERY guilty about how much he was missed etc etc.

HeadlessLadyBiscuit · 30/10/2010 09:35

What a self-centred twunt

SlartyBartFast · 30/10/2010 09:35

that is gross.
sigh.

i dont know about a curfew though, ref making him feel like a teenager even more than he behaves.

SuePurblybilt · 30/10/2010 09:37

Deffo not BU if it wasn't a special night out - stag do or whatever.
So I presume he can't drive and won't be going on your day out?

mistressploppy · 30/10/2010 09:37

Emotional blackmail. Take no prisoners!

ZombiePlan · 30/10/2010 09:39

Make him come with you anyway. If he has a hangover it's his problem and he should suffer, not you and the DC. If he gets to stay at home (resulting in the family staying home too) then he is the only one not suffering for his behaviour.

If he really is too bad to take out of the house, then make him do housework while you take the DC out (clearing up his mess would be a good start, and why should you give up a nice weekend to clean his skidmarks off the bog?).

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CountessVonKnackerstein · 30/10/2010 09:42

It wasn't a special night out, (other than his obsession with going out on the piss with a 25yr old squaddie but that's another thread!!) he goes out every week but coming in so late wrecks the weekend.

Today there are big halloween celebrations going on in our town, kids are really excited to get dressed up and have been talking about it all week. There's rides, slides, games, competitions, music, all their friends will be there equally as excited.

I know he works hard. I know he's got quite a stressful job but this has pissed me right off, yet again.

Why should we suffer ?

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FeelingOld · 30/10/2010 10:09

Like someone else suggested i would insist he comes with you. I would tell him to get showered etc and that he has to be ready by a certain time and thats it, he has to come or he can tell the kids why you cant go and that he can keep them amused all day.

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CountessVonKnackerstein · 30/10/2010 10:15

He's up now.
Doing "stuff" around the house that I usually have to ask him to do ...

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SlartyBartFast · 30/10/2010 10:16

that sounds good countess.

milk it

clam · 30/10/2010 10:25

Countess, thankyou for giving me the laugh of the day! Plus, I am now seeing my DH in an improved light.

LadyintheRadiator · 30/10/2010 10:27

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DeadPoncy · 30/10/2010 10:39

Well, drinking that hard isn't relaxation.

spookerv1xen · 30/10/2010 10:42

what a selfish arse.

i would leave the kids with him and go out.

Tortington · 30/10/2010 10:42

only mums ask for a kerfew and you're not his mum. dh and i don't have kerfews - but we do have respect and common sense.

respect in that, dh or i wouldnt stagger in at 3am

common sense in that not planning a family day if dh was going to get shitholed the night before - i would just avoid the row, knowing that he would be incapable and therefore not plan anything.

FakePlasticTrees · 30/10/2010 10:55

Every time he moans about how he feels, or sighs or does anything like that, I'd go with something like "well, you obviously can't handle your drink like you could when you were young. Your body's grown up, pity your brain hasn't caught up."

FakePlasticTrees · 30/10/2010 10:57

Just seen you're going to a fair type thing - will there be any roller coaster rides that "I bet Daddy would just love to take you on!" Grin

SheWillBeLoved · 30/10/2010 10:59

[hgrin] Fakeplastictrees, I like your style!

spookerv1xen · 30/10/2010 11:56

lolol @ fpt

GiselleS · 30/10/2010 11:59

What a selfish twunk.

scallopsrgreat · 30/10/2010 12:06

With LadyintheRadiator here. I wouldn't put up, surprised how many other people seem to though. Would he like it if the roles were reversed? Think not!

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CountessVonKnackerstein · 30/10/2010 18:11

I made him go on all the rides with DC's. (Evil Grin)

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