To expect DH to decorate the dining room for the dds party?

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Because I honestly don't think I am? I arranged the party, ergo the work should be all mine according to him. According to him he wasn't aware we were having a party. The three year old and 6 year old have talked of nothing else for weeks, but he didn't know about it

Only I am at work all day the day before and the morning of the party. He is off both days and my mum has the children all day the day before.

I mean, honestly, is it too much to ask? I will do the food/shopping/hosting etc. All I want is for him to decorate the room.

hmm well to be fair I can see his point. you decide to have the party, you organise it

however, in reality, he is being a bit selfish and unkind. i mean... why does he NOT want to do it?

Why he is refusing? Does he have other stuff to do? If you're expecting him to cancel something to do it, I can see his point. If he just wants to sit on his rear end and do sod all with his days off, I see your point.

On balance though, YANBU I don't think.

He didn't say. He just said that it is unfair of me to arrange something and then leave him to do 'all the work'. Decorating just one room is not 'all the work' imo. Especially not when you are child free all day. Something which I never have the luxery of being.

He has a check up at the dentist, but other than that he will be doing a grand total of nothing all day. Children will be gone between 1:30am and 7:30pm.

Last year it took an hour to decorate and that was with the dc hovering about.

11:30 am. Not 1:30am they are not going clubbing or anything

Maybe he's worried he will get it wrong?...or maybe he's a lazy sausage..you know him best..

Oh I thought you meant decorate as in paint/wallpaper....I was thinking best save that for after the party

I think he's being v mean, why does he not want to help get ready for his child's party? I would be hurt and upset if my hubby acted like that. He's out of order if he's at home and could so easily get it done in a short space of time.

It's a halloween party all I want him to do is stick some bin liners on the wall and hang some plastic skeletons off the ceiling. He is lazy. He is not bothered about getting it wrong.

I agree decorating a room is certainly not all the work...I always decorate the room ...its a party!! :)

what, exactly, are you plannning? an hour to decorate a room???

maybe he just really hates doing it and would rather go and do the food shopping?

When I read the title I thought wallpaper and emulsion . But do you just mean balloons and banners? In which case he is being unreasonable. He knows there is 'something' happening for his DDs and this is his contribution.
Give him precise instructions , all the necessary items and a time limit. Leave him to it.

I want the walls covered with bin liners to make it dark and spooky. That's what takes the time.

I really can't understand his logic. You're not asking much of him are you? He is definitely being unreasonable. I can't imagine not giving up an hour of my time to help with that kind of thing.

YADNBU.

it does sound like a really boring job to do for a party that you've had no say in

i mean, i think he ought to pitch in, but i can understand why he wouldn't want to do it.

ahh..at least he wont be doing food..hosting..games...party bags..refereeing.. and all that other good stuff...ffs put up some bin bags and skeletons and stop whinging..

After speaking to my mum we have decided he is much better at shopping, which is something I was going to do before work on Sat. So he can do the shopping. I will bin liner the walls. Then he feck off to the pub or whatever.

LOL..good move..