still using a monitor for my toddler?

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at what age does the bedroom monitor become a bit invasive/ cotton walled?
shes 1 1/2, sleeps all night and is only in the next room, but i just cant seem to say goodbye to the monitor.

I still use one for DD's who are 3 and 4.8. My heaaring isn't great and the layout of the house means we can't hear what they are up to.
I can hear a child throwing up over the monitor in their sleep but not in RL so it is staying
Plus currently DD1 is not well with a fever so I cna hear ehr crying in her sleep to go up and help, and DD2 keeps coughing until she is sick unless I get there first.

Babysat the other night for a friend and she still had one for her 6.3 yr old!

Still use one for DS (just turned 3) but only downstairs, we can hear him though the wall well enough at nightime. He's in a bed with a bedguard, and though he can get in and out, I don't think it's occurred to him that he can get out during the night - thank goodness!

Not sure why I still use it really. I just hate the thought of him crying out in the night and not hearing him over the TV etc.

I still use one for my twins (nearly three) as we can't hear them in the evenings over the tv unless they really scream. It's not like they need us very often but I don't like to think they've worked themselves into a lather unneccessarily just cos I was watching something a bit noisy. It also helps me monitor any pre falling asleep nonsense (you would not believe what two 2 year olds can get up to) as they share a room. Plus their early morning conversations are hysterical! I hope the reason for the original post wasn't that someone told you you shouldn't use it anymore? Whose business is it but yours? Most of my friends have stopped using it for their kids the same age as ours but that is because they now have babies and use it for them.

DS is 3.5 and I still use mine (but turn off at night)! As alot have said, it's not doing any harm, so why not. DS sometimes asks for it on if he does wake in the night, as it has a 'Nightlight' feature and I think he finds that a comfort.

I stil use mine for DSs (4.8 and 2.8, share a room) - just feel more comfortable with it.

Used it with DS1 at night until DS2 came along, but only use it in day (DS2's naps) and evenings until DH and I go to bed. Came in v handy the evening DS2 projectile vomited everywhere .

Expecting DC3, so will be using it for a while yet!

We had one for m-i-l [94] but she used to sing hymns very loudly for hours!!

Really Pranma, I hope my grandmother does the same tonight as we are paying for night carers Euro 1000 per WEEK and they sleep while there and expect an extra Euro50 every time they get up to care for her, We are getting an adult carer au pair next month half the price and they will not sleep if they are on the 'night shift' but require a monitor so they can be in another room.

Pranma

Never used one - perhaps that's why my controlled crying worked so well after just one night - (prepares to be flamed) .

We still use one for our 2yr old and I want to get another one for the new baby - I think dh Thinks I'm mad

I never realised so many people used them for so long. Maybe I had a bad one or my DD was very very loud!

We used ours until DD was about 4 months old, when we were downstairs with the telly on and she was upstairs asleep. Just had one with lights on and never turned the sound up - if the lights started on top of the telly, off we would trot. But really she slept downstairs for her first three months so my experience of using a monitor is very limited.

Do people really use them when you are asleep? Like on the bedside table? Or am I reading that wrong?

Yes we still use one for dd (2.3) and will buy a new one for new baby due shortly.
I have it on when we are in bed as it's quite a way to her bedroom and I'd rather hear her when she first wakes and says something than only wake up when she's crying and shouting. Not that she ever wakes up anyway :) but it's nice to hear her chatting and playing in the mornings over it :o

I can never understand why you can't hear your children - Do you all live in mansions? We lived in a largish four bedroomed house but I could always hear DS.

Not a mansion, but it's down quite a long corridor and past the en-suite from our bed to dd's room. Plus we have the doors pushed closed too so that our alarm doesn't wake her in the week.

Like I say, I could hear her if she was crying loudly / shouting, but I'd rather get to her when she first wakes than wait til she's fully wound up or upset.

My DD is 10 months old. She's been in her own room from 5 weeks, and I still have a monitor at night, and anticipate having it for some while yet.

In mitigation, I am on a different floor from her, and am profoundly deaf in one ear. She has always been a good sleeper, so if she does wake in the night it's because she's unwell and I don't like the thought of her crying in the dark.

Not a mansion here either, but we're on a different floor and with both bedroom doors closed we really can only hear her if she's yelling at the top of her voice. If she was to wake and be sick in the night or something we wouldn't know about it until she'd worked herself into a really distressed state. With a monitor we know straight away. So, yes, bedside table it is for the time being.

YANBU if you still want it in order not to worry about him/her then keep it.