ds stayed at aunties for 2 days and didn't wash or bruch teeth!

[jazee]

Hi,
Well....my ds who's 4 has just come back from spending 2 days at aunties and hasn't washed or cleaned teeth. Shock horror[hshock]!
Am I being unreasonable to think he should have had some help with washing etc.
We even went shopping and bought some soap, new flannel, sponge, etc for his little stay!
On a positive note, I really appreciate the fact she and her partner looked after him as his grandparents just doen't bother about him and I know he had a brill time[hsmile]
Am just a little surprised and she even made a point of saying he hadn't bathed, washed, ccleaned teeth.

Hi brushed teeth [hblush]

If she made a point of it then possibly she had a bit of a struggle getting him to do it, and just shrugged her shoulders and thought 'it won't kill him'

i would be annoyed about the teeth thing

i wouldnt worry about the not having a bath, unless he is actually covered in muck!

I was going to say, if she doesnt have children maybe she just didnt realise that she'd have to make him do it, but seems strange that she told you about it - did she say why?

Maybe she didn't realise he needed help - I've had my four year old neice stay a couple of times and I always say "now go and brush your teeth and wash your face" and just leave the sink with warm water for her flannel - I have always thought she was capable of doing it herself, so maybe your auntie just assumed your DS could/should do it himself.

At home washing etc is definately not a problem, it's just a case of saying as he is getting ready in the morning " let's go and have a wash now" and off we trott.
I think it was a case of I can't be bothered.... she's not very hands on with my boys! Her partner has children so is more used to caring - they are grown up.

Beb - she said he place all his toiletries around the bathroom so must have seen they hadn't been used when using the bathroom herself - he is a boy though and probably would need some encouragement.

Does Aunty have kids of her own ? She may have assumed he'd just get on with it.

He had a brill time with his aunty -that's what matters [hsmile]

When my mum has ds she thinks its a treat not to brush his teeth ?!? perhaps your aunt is a weird one like my mother?

Assume aunty doesn't have children and expected him to get on with it?

TBH when my DC stay at Dsis house I am well aware they only get a cursory wash and brush - they would rather not do it and aunty doesn't want to force them. It bugs me a bit but I let it go - it wont kill them and makes them love their aunty all the more!

it's not going to kill him! My mum has done this before.
It was probably all just a different routine,and he was having fun. I'm sure if it had been any longer than 2 days she would have insisted.
Just give him a good scrub now!

This is not important. In the grand scheme of life. 2 days of non-teeth-brushing, will not kill.
Not cool. but no harm done.
lets get this in perspcetive here.

next time maybe point out that he needs to be supervised to brush teeth & wash face & hands etc. I think teeth brushing should be at least once a day for everyone.

Skipping a bath for a weekend was probably fun for him!! No harm done.

Thanks - yep! I agree, he had a great time - that's the main thing. Next time I will point out he may need some help.
Nice deep bubbly bath tonight I think[hgrin]
and I feel I can relax about it all now ...no harm done x

YANBU. I wouldn't worry about not having a bath if he wasn't filthy, but the teeth cleaning is not acceptable.

My exh (dd's dad) NEVER cleans her teeth when she stays with him, and that can be over a week. He is very lax with his own and barely cleans them, but I expect him to look after hers as she is 5 and needs supervision to clean her teeth.

No matter how many times I remind him or tick him off about it, he still just won't clean her teeth. His line is always a jokey, laughy "oh you know what I'm like". Yes I bloody do, that's why we're divorced!