To make my DH be Cabin Boy

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My DH insists that there must be a leader in a relationship... I tell him that most healthy relationships have compromise....give and take. But he insists that I am in fact far more ballsy than most women and that he puts up with crap from me all the time because I won't accept him as a leader! WTF?

He is great in all other aspects....works very hard..loves me and is affectionate...sometimes buys me flowers and tells me he loves me lots..BUT...this "thing" about leaders gets on my nerves!

It crops up whenever we are trying to sort anthing "big" out....you know....jobs, money, housing...the big things...if we disagree he's like "Well you know I should be the leader...you won't let me take the helm"

WHAT HELM? This relationship is not a boat! And if it is then I should be captain as anyone who refers to "helms" when discussing relationships needs to be relegated to cabin boy!

So...AIBU or should I let him "take the helm" [sniggery emoticon]

Tell me...honestly...do you let your other half lead?

Sorry, that should be Gottman, not Goffman. Worth a read if you are of the 'volatile' persuasion, will make you feel much better.

lol at your Mum's advice Cornettos...though it gives me hope!

I suppose Goffman might have a point! We are passionate...we DO laugh... we generally feel quite secure in one another complete devotion....despite shoving one another away from the helm. I am sure that on a real ship, DH and I would be scrapping in the hold whilst the clever cabin boy steered us home!

Gottman....will look him up!

Well LeQueen...I love DH but he aint having MY heart on no plate! No sir!

LOL @ your DH, so funny- but they've all got that in them, mine certainly has, it just needs slapping out of them every so often :o

Like mine, he probably married you because you are ballsy, & he loved that about you, but he still can't help himself from becoming a throw back to his cave man roots every so often :o & trying to beat his chest to remind you why you fell for him in the first place - probably because he was man enough to stand up to you in the first place ;)

Personally I'd just laugh, & then remind him he married YOU because your NOT a doormat, & to stop beating his chest like a bloody gorrilla & talk/listen to common sense,