To wish I wasn't a single parent

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My brother came to stay with me and dd this weekend and its really reinforced how much easier/better life would be if I wasn't on my own. When he was here I didn't have to do everything, when dd spilt her drink he wiped it up and poured her another before I could blink an eye. On Sunday he got up got dd her breakfest, made me breakfest in bed and managed to get dd to do her half-term homework (no mean feat normally we have to do it on the Sunday night before). He has a car so we didn't have to struggle on buses particulary on Sundays. Life was so much easier and my brother is only 19 and today being the first day of half term has been so hard as we have no money and can't do much although she is going to a friends house on Thursday, I just wish my ex wasn't such a turd who "can't be bothered with dd".

I've been a single parent for 6 years now. It is the best thing for me, I am so much happier on my own. The thought of being in a relationship makes me feel like I'm suffocating!

I don't think YABU though. Being a single parent can be very hard and lonely and it is wonderful if someone is there to help from time to time - but only if they go away again too. IMO!!

I can't imagine being in a relationship now which is, I suppose, a bit sad really. However most of the time I just feel free!

Yanbu
Doing everything on your own is hard, my dd is only 4 weeks old and while she is amazing and a good little baby I can't help feeling like you do - how much easier things would be if I had an another pair of hands to help.

However as others pointed out, being on your own can be a preferable option to being in a relationship with some men.

Can we swap brothers? Mine would make you grateful that you are a single parent. He wouldn't lift a finger to help you and instead sit there and criticise everything about you and your parenting skills and your inability to keep hold of your dc's waste of space father.

YANBU but as others say the grass isn't always greener. Have you and your brother always been close because he sounds bloody amazing.

Pallette We have always been close to each other and I know I am lucky to have a brother so supportive and helpful.

YANBU, as much as I complain about DH at times is an enormous help and I'm not sure how I'd do it on my own.