to expect neighbour to text or call me before allowing her friend to park on my drive?..

[neighbourhasfatarse]

pay parking round the corner if no visitor permits.

really peeved off, neighbour has done this before thinking it's ok to use our property with stupid after the fact notes! she has my mobile! she once slipped a note through my door then allowed her builders to jump over the fence into our property to fix her window!! then they did it again that afternoon with no notice!!

told woman i was not impressed her parking in my drive, used her baby as an excuse, actually don't care, my 2 kids were in my car waiting to park!!she told me "life was too short".... not even a thank you, so rude i told her!

i think i'm living on another planet!! i must be!

Parking seems to bring out the worst in stupid/selfish people.

I mentioned on another thread recently that we live in a slightly odd place where there are no parking restrictions whatsoever (we are in London) and a big long road with only 5 houses on it, so hardly any cars. Not only does anyone coming to walk their dog on the commons land opposite us feel the need to cram their cars into the space outside our house making it difficult to get in or out, but we also have bizarre neighbours who periodically block us in with their cars or their guests' cars.

They used to live in a big house on one side of us and they built our house as a housekeepers' cottage. They then sold those two houses and kept the cottage on the other side of us. They are only there part-time - sometimes it is the parents, sometimes one or both of their children who are in their early 20s. They have 4 cars between them but there are never more than 3 there at a time, all of which can fit on their drive. But no, it is much more fun to randomly abandon one of the cars across our gate and leave it there all night so that when I happen to have an early start in the morning I have to bang and kick on their door for 10 minutes to get them to move it. Every single one of their visitors does the same thing. I caught one of them at it and politely asked "Will you be there long, as we will be needing to get out?" "Oh yes, we'll be here for hours" he guffawed at me. When I pointed out that there were no parking restrictions and yet he had parked in the only place that would cause an obstruction, he proudly announced "Of course I designed this house - I was the architect." He seemed a bit taken aback when I pointed out that I didn't care if he had built it with his own two hands - he could still get his enormous jag out of my way.
Pillocks.
Sorry for rant and hijack but I needed to get that out!

Oh and the point of that post before I got carried away was to say that I put a note on the neighbour's son's car the second time he blocked the drive saying "There is no reason for this car to be here. If it carries on being here then we will move it. If it sustains damage while being moved then don't come moaning to me about it."

What about a chain with a padlock?

yanbu, lazy cow. Slash her tyres?

well my nieghbour acrss the road put notes thorugh the door saying thye whre having work done and hoped everyone would be ok with them aprking on the road and outside other peoples houses!

I knocked his door and told him he was welcoem to stick his v nice car on my drive as it is bg enough for two cars

he did and at the end of the week he knocked th edoor and gave me a bottle of red

it wasn't needed it was just being friendly

I think OP you need to have a word and explain that if perhaps they could try to sort out their friedns and that they only park on your drive if they have asked previously if they can do so before they arrive to visit

YANBU

If it was parked on your drive, and got damaged, would you be liable for the damage? It'd be a terrible shame if that happened.
My vote would be for one of those metal posts, ideally installed whilst her car is on your drive. Mind you don't misplace the key though!

I'm gonna be the voice of opposition here, I can see, but just small alternative perspective...

She's your neighbour, you have to live next to her. Perhaps she genuinely didn't think about what the consequences would be. Is it a shared drive where it is unclear which bit is yours, or the boundary between them is vague? Or is it a distinct drive with a distinct entrance? If the latter, it's certainly bloody cheeky to do it more than once, because once is an emergency etc..

But if the latter, it may seem reasonable to her, however inconvenient it is to you.

But is it WRONG WRONG WRONG? Deserving of keying the car, tyres slashed and other criminal damage? No. The 'after the fact' note thing indicates, at least, that she is thinking about you, if a little disorganised.

She's your neighbour: it could escalate. Or, you could choose to point out the inconvenience to you, ask if she could direct her guests to park her car elsewhere next time. If it happens a lot, sure, make it physically impossible. But parking on your drive when you're not there isn't ACTUALLY doing you all that much harm, except you were inconvenienced. It is rude, presumptuous and irritating. But perhaps - given you have each other's mobile numbers - she thinks of you as a friend, someone she can rely on, someone who will do favours for her (and hopefully she will reciprocate). That's what neighbours do, isn't it? Rather than keying the car, why don't you ask if she can do something for you?

Former. Not latter. Argh. Bedtime.

Wilfshelf that's a good idea - a reciprocal arrangement! Maybe offering the use of the drive in return for a fee?! That'd thrust the point home!

My Dad's neighbours put their camper van on his drive and then took the wheels off! They argued he didn't need the drive that much as he worked away all week! It was such blatant disrespectful piss taking he told them they had one hour or he'd drag it off the drive, wheels off, and dump it in the middle of the carriageway. They moved it. And this was after protracted "polite" discussions. Some people don't really care about other people's rights and think only of their own convenience sadly.

WilfShellf you having a laugh?? defo not friends! J* is that you? Your friend???

Inconvenienced my arse plain and simple rude! Any respect or consideration for me you would have called and asked!! Unfrigginbelivable!!