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to be SOOOOOO broody.....

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spookerv1xen · 25/10/2010 11:35

i want another baby so much! but i dont know if i am being selfish as it will make us poorer, we don't really have a big enough house (and cant afford to move), i have been a SAHM for nearly 5 years (other DC are 4.6 and 1.6) and it will be even harder for me to get back into the workplace if i take more time out to have another one, we are pretty skint (although getting by) at the moment and in this economic climate i don't know if we could "afford" another one....so many reasons not to but my heart really is ruling my head a bit at the moment. (have discussed with dp btw and he would like one too!) two of my closest friends have just had babies and that isnt helping matters :o

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BuntyPenfold · 25/10/2010 11:42

Me too - I long for another.
Money, who cares, manage somehow.

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spookerv1xen · 25/10/2010 11:45

how many have you got at the moment bunty ? are you trying at the moment?

glad it isnt just me :)

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loopylouwitchywoo6 · 25/10/2010 11:46

I think you are insane Grin

laweaselmys · 25/10/2010 11:47

I know how you feel. Only got one, but the pampers tetanus jab ad's are making me teary.

Financially it has all got a bit uncertain, so DP is refusing.

We're getting a cat though. Grin

GeekOfTheWeek · 25/10/2010 11:50

I am too.

I already have 3, ds10, dd5 and ds2 is 1 next month.

My mat leave ends and I am back at work next week so suspect this is playing a role in my broodiness.

BuntyPenfold · 25/10/2010 11:52

I have a girl and a boy,grown up, and thought one of each now, will stop.
The longing has never gone away though.
As I am in a new relationship, and DF would love it, here hoping.

rubyslippers · 25/10/2010 11:54

I have 2

Always wanted 3

Having had a weekend of miserable sleepless-ness with them both I realised that I not up for doing that all again with a third

Thing with the third is that you have 2 others to juggle too IMO - you don't just get a teeny baby to smooch

atswimtwolengths · 25/10/2010 12:04

The thing is that when you have had that third child, you will still feel broody for another. When would you stop?

You know you shouldn't have another child, for so many reasons. Take advantage of really good contraception, the best gift we have, and choose to make the most of the family you have now - after all, this is the family you yearned for, isn't it?

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spookerv1xen · 25/10/2010 12:09

atswimtwolenghts i definitely wouldn't want 4 DC. three would be perfect for me.

bunty - i hope it happens for you.x

i think its also because i want another one specifically with DP, he is not the father of DS - my eldest (was in a very bad relationship with DS dad that ended when DS was a tiny baby) but i love dp so much and have loved having a baby with him (DD) i want MORE with him! :o

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GeekOfTheWeek · 25/10/2010 12:13

Tbh with you op I found it a lot harder going from 1 to 2 rather than from 2 to 3. It just doesn't seem any harder with 3.

fwiw I was sure only ever wanted 2 Grin Funny how things work out.

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spookerv1xen · 25/10/2010 12:15

interesting geekoftheweek - i didnt find it that hard going from 1 to 2 to be honest. so 2 - 3 should be a breeze :o

i know, when i had DS, i was sure i didnt want any more. just one was fine with me. but the DP came along and all of a sudden i was like, I HAVE TO PROCREATE WITH THIS MAN :o

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GeekOfTheWeek · 25/10/2010 12:26

LOL

2 to 3 will be a walk in the park then Grin No, seriously it will be fine imo.

I am seriously contemplating a 4th. Holiday, cars and the cost of childcare are the only things that are putting me off.

laweaselmys · 25/10/2010 12:29

I really want 4. Probably I am mad.

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spookerv1xen · 25/10/2010 12:48

how many have you got now laweasel

geek yeah the holiday thing is a concern as well, will cost a fortune with 3 kids and me and dp would probably never get to holiday alone again. (although the one time we have been away without them i missed them like crazy anyway :o ) and ditto cost of childcare, i guess i would just have to find an evening or weekend job, same as i would anyway now. if u want a 4th - go for it!

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GeekOfTheWeek · 25/10/2010 13:00

I would but ds2 is only 11 months and I just don't think we can afford for 2 in childcare Sad.

Our holidays don't cost that much more with 3 as we book early so don't let that stop you.

Good luck whatever you decide.

laweaselmys · 25/10/2010 13:05

I've only got DD, she is 19mths!!

So very much getting ahead of myself, but Iove a house full of kids.

lazylula · 25/10/2010 13:12

I alwways wanted 3, got to 2 and decided that was enough, dh didn't agree and I am now expecting number 3! It kind of just happened, so the decision was taking out of my hands (no trickery from dh I might add, just a slip up at the wrong time lol). I am nearly 11 weeks and am coming round to the idea. Friends with 3 all say it is easier to go from2 to 3 than 1 to 2 so heres hoping lol!

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spookerv1xen · 25/10/2010 14:42

lazylula - whats it like being pregnant and having 2 kids to deal with? for me, that was harder than when DD actually arrived (ie coping with pregnancy with another toddler to deal with) how old are your other kids? congrats on the pregnancy btw! x

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lazylula · 26/10/2010 00:10

Tiring lol! TBH, I am more tired this time, than I was with the last 2 (ds1 is nearly 5 and ds2 is 2.4), but I haven't had the sickness I had with them which is a relief! Infact I haven't been sick once! I don't really have time to consider the fact I am pregnant with 2 others around. Having said I am very tired I have also been getting used to the whole school routine as well, as ds1 started school 4 days before I found out I was pregnant, so their is earlier starts and 2 trips to the school along with all the other things I do. We only told the children at the weekend, ds2 is too young to understand, ds1 is excited which is nice.

PaulaMummyKnowsBest · 26/10/2010 10:25

i always wanted 4.

When I was pregnant with baby 3 i had dreadful SPD and vowed to never have another baby.

I now work as a doula and maternity nanny and holding other peoples babies is making me very broody. But if I had another, I would have to give up doing my job which I love doing.

However, my 3 are now 12, 10 and 6 so it mean a complete change of my life and lives of everyone else within our family.

I have let my dd (12) get a pony so that all of my spare time can be taken up with the pony which hopefully will stop me wanting that 4th baby!

AWoodenPickle · 26/10/2010 11:05

I have 3.

Going from 2-3 was/is bloody hard, my 6mo does not enjoy being a baby (she's adorable though), the thought of 4 makes me want to run away screaming but that Pampers "kiss goodnight" advert is slowly getting under my skin and I'm getting a familiar pang of jealously when I spot a pregnant woman.

DH needs the snip me thinks.

JodiesMummy · 26/10/2010 11:10

YANBU - Im desperate for another, I have 1 DD. We have been trying for a year and no luck.

wayoftheworld · 26/10/2010 11:16

I would love another DC. Already have three 8,6 and 3 year old and feel if I dont do it now will never happened. I dont want to spend the rest of my life wandering "what if" and I know I would...

My DH and I are having problems at the moment so I should take the clue and move on, but my heart just sinks when I think of not having any more.... I don't even come from a big family, so have no idea why I feel this way, but when reading posts like this inside I scream : Me too, Me too!!! [Sad]

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