to expect MIL to return diplicate gift?

[Angelacat]

Hi Everyone,

Been a lurker for a while but really could do with abit MIL advice.

It's dn birthday soon - seeing as I knew I was going to be 8 months pregnant by now I'd decided to buy all birthday/xmas present by now but just had dh today proclaim that his mother has recently bought same present for dn's birthday as I had...online (elc)....over a month ago (he knew what Id bought as well).

AIBU to expect her to return her shop bought duplicate? - she's in her 60's, retired, in not bad health but no car - she relys on sil to ferry her around. Im heavily pregnant, still at work (p/t) and have a small child in tow too plus Im not sure if after dragging present back to elc I'll be told that as I've missed 28 days returns policy and Im stuck with it.

Advice needed as I'm slightly unhinged emotionally with hormones :o and don't want to rock any boats but at the same time I'm abit peeved that all my good plans to save me hassle have come undone!

I would ask if she could return hers simply because of the returns policy. They may not take yours back. Or if it's something that she really wants to give DN ask if she takes hers back she can give yours and you will get something else.

It's only one present that you have to rebuy, and you could always order online.

You csn ask, but she can also say no! I sympathise with the concept of traipsing back to shop with DC and 8month bump to be told no refund, but I'm sure you could get an exchange. If you call your elc branch in advance you could clarify this and perhaps ask them to put a replacement toy (if you know what you want) to one side for you so you don't have to search the shop once there.

Do you have another girl that you could give the present to? Either for Xmas or an upcoming birthday? You could then choose something else online for dn.

If not then you could approach mil and ask if she would mind exchanging her gift as you can't return yours as you're past the 28days. Be nice to her - I expect she ddidn't know that she was buying the same as you

Hi,

Thanks for the advice - I think I'll do a combination of choufleur n QOP's - ring ahead and hope they'll exchange it and keep something aside/return MIL's and let her use one I'd bought.

nbee84 - I doubt she did - am annoyed at the coincidence and dh for not mentioning to her (he see's her more often) what we'd already bought - he signed for it when it was delivered - after 8pm of all hours (they delivery guy said he was running late!)

must admit im usually abit more organised and tell family what I've bought/indend to buy but am abit crazy busy this year - hence the online shopping!

Thanks again x