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AIBU?

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to leave a note on this woman's car?

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Cheddacheese · 21/10/2010 13:44

I know these types of threads are done to death but I honestly want to know whether I need to chill out over this or do something...

A woman parks outside our house everyday around 8am and walks down a line path opposite to the railway station (takes about 10 mins). It peeves me because my partner parks where she does but he leaves for work at 6am and returns at 4.30pm and her car is still there. We have two houses opposite full of students who have a car each and so parking between residents is a nightmare already.

I found out the other day she only blardy lives a 2 minute walk round the corner !! Even today she must of spent more time defrosting her car to drive it 2 secs round the corner !!

Anyway, should I leave a polite note or putabigscratchdownthesideofhercar just make my peace with it?

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hystericalmum · 21/10/2010 13:46

Key it!

I am joking. If it's a street, it's basically free for all parking. You have no more right to park outside your house than anyone else I'm afraid.

JinnyS · 21/10/2010 13:46

I'd chill. It's a public highway so there isn't a lot you can do and if she wasn't parking there then someone else would

oldraver · 21/10/2010 13:47

If she only lives two minutes round the corner then go and park outside hers

Seeline · 21/10/2010 13:48

There really would be little point. Anyone has the right to park on the road outside your house (unless specially designated/restricted) so she would probably carry on doing it. I live in a similar situation - very near a station and bus stops, lots of converted flats with no parking and families with grown up children having four or five cars. My husband often takes my car (which stays on the drive) rather than his(which lives on the road) rather than have to struggle to find a parking space on his return.

DomesticG0ddess · 21/10/2010 13:48

It's annoying, but if she can legally park there, she'll probably ignore a note? Presumably if your DP arrives home at 4.30pm, before other people get back from work, then there are other spaces for him? You probably just need to accept it as part of urban life.

PaisleyPumpkin · 21/10/2010 13:50

I agree, You just need to accept it.
If you live down the path from the station, if it's not her it'll be someone else.

MadamDeathstare · 21/10/2010 13:51

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IMoveTheStars · 21/10/2010 13:54

She's parking on a public road where it's legal to do so? er... YABU,sorry.

If she didn't park there someone else probably would.

Do you have a second car? Driveway?

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Cheddacheese · 21/10/2010 13:59

I know you are all right !! It just gets me it does ! Its only become like this recently when two sets of students moved in.

You know how it is, even though its a public road, you kinda have "your space" so when DP gets home he parks in someone elses spot and a chain reaction begins and the residents get all huffy lol. Thanks everyone

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Poogles · 21/10/2010 13:59

I sympathise - used to have lots of commuters parking outside our old house. Got v. frustrating when they blocked drive though!!

On one occasion, I parked my car on road outside my house night before as had friend coming round with new baby and didn't want her to end up half a mile away and got a knock on the front door at 6.45am from someone asking telling me to put my car on my drive so they could park there!!!!

hystericalmum · 21/10/2010 14:01

Blimey Poogles, I hope you flicked V's at the person knocking at 6.45am!

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Cheddacheese · 21/10/2010 14:01

Yes, my DP said he would go park outside hers, but she lives in a block of flats which has plenty of parking bays so she wouldn't even notice lol

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Cheddacheese · 21/10/2010 14:03

@ Poogles - what did you say ?

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feistychickfightingthebull · 21/10/2010 14:04

I feel your pain, we are the first street without controlled parking out of all the streets near ours and am so fed up with commuters. I could not find parking at all on our street today, and out of the forty or so cars parked on our street today, three of them actually belong to residents on our street. I had to park three streets away from mine with a fifteen month old. I just feel like screaming my head off in frustration. Luckily all the neighbours are equally frustrated and it is only a matter of time before we do have controlled parking on our street.

YABU at all

Maisiethemorningsidecat · 21/10/2010 14:05

I'm afraid you just have to grin and bear it, sadly. It's part and parcel of living near a school/railway station/shop/village hall etc - as we've found out! Doesn't stop me feeling as bugged as you are - I feel your pain.

FindingMymOOOOOOOOjo · 21/10/2010 14:05

get your DP to park in her spot 2 min away (presumably he will be there when she returns home) & see if she leaves him a note & then offer to 'swap' places .

YABU you have no right to that park.

BTino · 21/10/2010 14:12

Well if she does it every day, right outside your house, that that is inconsiderate of her. I know you have no legal right to park right outside your house but why can't people have a bit of common courtesy for each other?

I would leave a polite note explaining that you have children and a partner who works and it would be nice to be able to park outside your own home for convenience. I am presuming that if you needed to go out with your partner, you'd have to drag all the children to where his car is parked, so it might be worth mentioning this.

She may think that you have no car because she's never seen one there. In any case I can't see that a short and very polite note would do any harm. If you are very brave you could even go and have a chat with her when she returns.

Most people, if asked politely, will show consideration, but unfortunately they do need to be asked.

mayorquimby · 21/10/2010 14:22

Yabu
And she's not being inconsiderate at all. she's parking on a public road which she has paid for the right to do.

MadamDeathstare · 21/10/2010 14:23

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minipie · 21/10/2010 14:29

YABU

BUT if there is generally a shortage of parking due to commuters/students, it might be worth speaking to the council to see if they would consider restrictions on parking (eg residents' parking, 2 permits max per house).

only likely to happen if the problem is quite severe though.

TandB · 21/10/2010 14:29

Madamdeathstare - I love it!
We live somewhere a bit odd - a dead-end, unadopted road about 100 yards long, just off a fairly quiet, very long road with absolutely no parking restrictions. On a busy day there might be 5 cars on the whole length of our road and the main road. Most of the road is trees or common land - there are only 5 actual houses. But if anyone wants to park there to walk their dog or whatever, they always manage to park right outside our house in such a way that I have to faff around to get our car parked.
There is one woman who comes and parks there for hours at a time and appears and disappears all day. I really want to know what she is doing and why!

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Cheddacheese · 21/10/2010 14:31

LOL @ MadamDeathstares mum !

BTino - I wish I was brave enough to ask because you are right she probably doesnt realise and yes I do have to carry my chunky munky plus bags to and from the car.

Mayorquimby - I know I am being unreasonable in that respect, I do not dispute she has every right. It's just frustrating.

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Cheddacheese · 21/10/2010 14:33

Minipie - we thought the same about speaking to the council but as she only lives round the corner she would probably be able to get a permit too.

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BTino · 21/10/2010 14:46

Well she ain't gonna know by psychic powers is she? So you either say a friendly hello and ask ever so politely, or leave a note, or just suck it up.

LotteryWinnersOnAcid · 21/10/2010 14:47

YABU.

I feel your pain though. My street is controlled parking and we have a permit but still end up having to park miles away as people just "stop for 5 minutes" even in the resident only bays to use the local amenities (post office, shops) at the top of the road and it's highly annoying.

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