to be sick of sympathetic looks?

[rpickett]

I don't get it, if people ask me how old my DC's are (17mths and 27mths) and when my DC3 is due they respond with a very sympathetic look and always make a comment on how hard it must be.

I also always get the comments "oh you've got your hands full" or "your not gonna have anymore are you?" why is it any of peoples buisness, yes I'm young and my children are very close together but that's the way I like it, get all the nappy changes and night feeds out of the way instead of getting one child into school then having to do it all over again.

I am getting so sick of people sticking their noses in, general conversation is fine but the snide comments or looks are just not on.

My mums next door neighbour comments everytime she sees me that she feels sorry for me and I must be mad, and I just think how rude.

Ok so I may be mad in some peoples eyes but I am happy (for most part, roll on the end of night feeds).

AIBU?

I agree with piscesmoon. If everyone were so darned sensitive to well-meant chit-chat we'd just have to stop taking to people we don't know well, altogether.

I got comments like this! There is 11 months between my DC. We did plan on having a small age gap but thought more along the lines of 2 years but hey, it's worked out fine

Am planning on having another DC within the next couple of years, and as my youngest is 4 years old at the moment no doubt I'll get comments about that too!

YABU, I got these looks and comments and each of my 3 children are 3 years apart. It's just what people say, they are making conversation, it's normal.

I only have 3 and get the "are you having any more?" comment lots.

The majority of people don't read Mn and aren't aware that any comment on pg/child/parenting WILL be taken the wrong way/as an attack.

If you get pg 3 months after giving birth, it will most likely be commented upon, get over it.

It puts you off making the simplest, friendly comment to a mother with small DCs! Obviously when I smile at a mother with twins and say 'double trouble' it is a big 'no no'. Luckily in RL they take in the spirit it is meant and don't read lots into it! (I remember one young mother on here complaining that people commented on the weather!!! You can't win!)
I think we should all keep our lips zipped-except it wouldn't work-we would be unfriendly and people would read things into looks!
It is meaningless chit chat that helps the world go round!