to feel fecked off with antenatal "care"

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Just been to the hospital, for what we thought was our final scan. Had been told that, due to PFB laying transverse and large-in-size-and-number fibroids, a c-section was almost inevitable - at 37+6 (@27th Nov).

Get there today (am 32 weeks) - no scan booked (was looking forward to seeing him again) and told that, actually we don't know why you're here, come back at 37 weeks.

DP asked WTF was going on and managed to get a better explanation: baby may still turn, fibroids may not be too much of a problem, we shouldn't have been told to come back today, that a decision won't be made 'til later. Doc also said that "a junior doctor shouldn't have seen you, next time it will be the senior registrar."

I know that I should be happy: I'm 36 and this is likely to be our only child & I'd wanted to 'go natural' (with all the drugs, natch), my fibroids may not be as bad as initially stated and baby may well be closer to full term. For some reason, though, I feel a bit miserable.

I'd based my mat leave on having c-section end Nov but my actual due date was 13 Dec. I commute daily: 2hrs each way. I wonder if the thought of a few more weeks of that has put me in a slump?? Oh, and we didn't get to see him . Oh, boot me up the 'arris and tell me just to be happy that I'm having a baby - I've just talked myself into telling myself that IABU!

YANBU! No 'arris booting necessary. You might feel big and lumbery (is that a word) and pissed off though if you're anything like me.

Why not go on mat leave early anyway? I wish I hadn't been at work the morning of the birth.

There's no such thing as any consistent 'care' in this country in any realm of the NHS or the private sector. I've experienced outrageously dumb doctors at 'wonderful' Great Ormond S H who nearly managed to kill my DS at 3 when he had a bone marrow transplant, yet a superb heart consultant for my DH at our local normally badly-reputed hospital. Our local private hospital is more of a (not very clean) hotel with a bad reputation, I just count myself lucky that we have a second home in France where I go to the village GP if we need anything, and experience a vastly superior healthcare system to that which we've experienced here.

I know this is nothing to do with your situation, but I fear for my now-grown DCs as and when they need care in this country, it's just not good enough :(

Good luck ac x

I cried when I turned up for a scan on the wrong day (they'd made a mistake).

It IS silly, and you will feel better about it and the good news later. But don't feel bad about being upset. It is lovely to see them on the screen moving around, and reassure yourself.

So YANBU! Take use of the time off, and slouch around doing nothing, or buy some cute baby clothes.