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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to find Tom dalys dad a little bit grating

45 replies

ChileanMinerWife · 18/10/2010 18:41

it seems to be all about him. that hugging thing a few years ago, etcetc
let the boy dive and take a step back fgs

why does the mum not get all this adulation? surely its a team effort

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MrsC2010 · 18/10/2010 19:29

Does it matter if they're all happy??

JamieLeeCurtis · 18/10/2010 19:31

If he's got a brain tumour it may well affect his emotional expressiveness. Not that ot's any of my business

BarbaraSeville · 18/10/2010 19:31

I don't see how "the lot of you" are arrogant judgemental cocks. Only some.

allhallowsandwine · 18/10/2010 19:32

YABU and in a very ignorant way I think you may find that his tumour affects his behaviour somewhat and yes his illness is life limiting. I think your 'name' is hint enough at your insitivity. chileanminerwife

nigglewiggle · 18/10/2010 19:36

You are perfectly entitled to find anyone annoying. But to announce it on public forum when that person is seriously ill shows poor judgement. When that illness is likely to have affected his behaviour for some time then I think this thread is indefensible.

Urbanvoltaire · 18/10/2010 20:46

YABU - I admire him for being so supportive of his son. If more parents like him took a keen interest in their kids' potential sporting abilities wouldn't we have more outstanding athletes like Tom?

Soounds like OP is doing the English trait of bashing successful athletes?

StrictlyOogieBoogiePumpkin · 18/10/2010 20:48

Oh my what a horrible thread! I think his Dad seems lovely, totally supportive, really proud and more concerned with his son being a good person than a gold medalist.

He is also very ill, and thinking he may miss most of his sons life probably makes him want to go a bit OTT for the things he gets to see.

AppleHEAD · 18/10/2010 20:55

Having had a friend go through treatment for a brain tumour I know it has a very profound effect on the persons personality. If parts of the brain have been operated on and removed it changes them. He seemed like a lovely man and they seemed like a very nice family.
Good on him for all the effort he has made with his son.

SleepingLion · 18/10/2010 20:59

This is such a vile thread.

My BIL died this year of a brain tumour. He was ill for a long time with it, and it affected his behaviour in many ways. My nephew, who is fourteen, found it horrendously traumatic to watch his father suffer this slow decline.

I am sure he would give anything to have his father back, hugging him and supporting him and being proud of him.

megapixels · 18/10/2010 21:02

I don't know whether to laugh or cry at comments like "he needs to take a step back" and "he needs to BUTT OUT". Said about the parent of someone, someone who's almost still a child.

create · 18/10/2010 21:15

I watched that documentary and wished I could have had a relationship like that with my Dad. Also that DH was the sort of man to put a ladder to the bedroom window to watch his DS's surprise

Tom seems like a lovely lad to me and I think to maintain any kind of normality in a household where they have the pressures of such serious illness and a child prodigy is nothing short of amazing

bruffin · 18/10/2010 21:19

Even if he weren't ill, it is still a very difficult time for him, with his son growing up and becoming independent. Our Ds is just a bit younger and I know Dh has struggled with that recently.
Agree with the others horrible unnecessary thread

dementedma · 18/10/2010 21:19

AIBU to think that young Tom is going to be one seriously HOT dude in another year or two?
I know, i know he's only 16 but sometimes i come over all mrs Robinson-ish...

bytheMoonlight · 18/10/2010 21:22

Horrible thread.

I suppose at least his dad got to watch him win one gold medal, small comfort though.

phipps · 18/10/2010 21:32

IIRC he won 2, bytheMoonlight.

woolymindy · 18/10/2010 21:44

Agreed. A horrible and mean spirited thread - today there is an article in the Daily Mail which is an interview with his Dad - the tumour has apparently affected him for two years before he was diagnosed - so if he is a little awkward in his manner I imagine that is the reason.

Can you even imagine how hard it must be for this family to be under the spotlight as they are inevitably going to be and to have this running alongside, particularly when this illness has had an effect on his Dad's personality. They seem to be a close and loving family and great to see people pulling together and looking out for one another in an age when so many families are fractured.

The OP's cynicism is sad and depressing and says a lot more about her than it does about the person she is berating.

bruffin · 18/10/2010 21:58

The documentary the other night said he was diagnosed with a grapefruit size tumour in2005.80% was removed but it recently started to grow back. So not sure how cmw and violethill knew he was annoying before he was ill.

CrazyPlateLady · 18/10/2010 22:05

I have reported this horrible thread.

scaryteacher · 18/10/2010 22:06

I think the support Tom Daly's father gives him is fantastic. How do you think Tom would get to training and home if his Dad wasn't there?

I watched the documentary too. They are a close knit family and they all seem very down to earth. They've managed to get Tom through all the bullying he was going through at school, and have produced a calm, competent well mannered and likeable youngster, and kept his feet on the ground enough that he got excellent GCSE grades, and can perform smoothly on the Today programme.

I hope his Dad gets better and is about to support Tom for many years to come.

FingandJeffing · 18/10/2010 22:15

He is only 16 ish , most parents especially of sports stars (illness not withstanding) have one or two very involved and committed parents.

Now what you think about that is neither here nor there but it is the norm. How do they get to their 6 am training 50 miles away if mum or dad is not there to drive them. Think of all young sports stars and it is often the same, especially when it is a sport that needs access to particular facilities (pool with board or ice rink etc.)

TBH Andy Murrays mum grates a little but I remind myself that she did not want to be famous. She wanted to help her son realise his dreams and the bbc and papers are desperate for a quote (esp when they are on court or in the pool blah blah).

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