Jumping the bus queue. Grrrr

[Jojopumpkinmama]

If you are a parent who travels by bus, you'll know it's sometimes not possible to get on if there are already two prams.

I was waiting patiently for my bus - with my daughter in her pram. Another mum with a pram came along and when the bus arrived she got on first - and I couldn't get on.

Am I being unreasonable to have expected her to have allowed me to get on as I was there first. (Maybe just naive, not unreasonable!) (For the record, I always allow whoever was there first to get on before me).

YABU to not have said that you were there first.

She was BU to jump the queue.

Why did you not say something?

YANBU to be pissed off but you ought to have pointed out the queuing system that is favoured in this country.

Think you should probably have said something when she started to get on before you, 'erm.. I think i was first'

Knives on the buggy wheels, like Boudicca, that's the answer

Yes it's annoying.

This happened to me when ds was tiny. I did say something though and the woman turned round, laughed in my face and told me to fuck off.

So, to stop it happening again I always made sure I was right there waiting when the bus stopped, or tbh took ds in a sling as often as possible.

It's depressing that people are so self-centred and rude, but they are unfortunately.

YANBU,

As far as I am aware you wait in a queue at a bus stop and take your turn to board, with of course the exception of leeting people on before as you feel their need is greater than yours.

She should not have gone before you. if I were you, next time, calmly but with a very firm dont mess with me cow voice, pilitely explain you were there first and you WILL be getting on first.

I have no problem now with pulling people up who have pushed in front of me. I find that it often works, and even if it doesn't it's better than being left with that terrible frustration of having done nothing to stand up for myself.

Smile and wave Riven, smile and wave

Don't Riven, ignore!

(but I know the feeling - had some embarasssing momenets at regular times/spots when the driver's pulled up where I can't get on, and other queuers have just stood and 'looked' at them).

Riven thats entirly different tho imo. You are there needing the wheelchair space not pushing in for a space that someone else needs.

In Spain this year there was a family in my Hotel and the man/ Dad was in a wheelchair. When we got on at the dpot some tourists nearly trampled the poor guy afraid they wouldn't get a space and I stood firm in front of them and told them to get some manners Cue some angry tourists who then silenced themselves when I asked the driver (in Spanish) to let this guy board first via the back and I would help - as they didn't know what I was saying they seemed scared to argue
I got to the back of the queue which left DS and I standing for the journey - to him that was an adventure

Its common courtesy to allow people in front to go first and to help those that need assistance. Treat other how you yourself want to be treated.

(sorry got my ranty pants on this evening)

I thought of you the other day Riven.

I was waiting for the bus with the buggy and a friend and a man in a wheelchair was also waiting.

The bus pulled up, the man indicated to the driver he needed the ramp down.

We shuffle back out of the way and I ask if he needs any help, he says no.

Doors open there are a couple of buggies in the wheelchair space, the women with them just stood there and stared at him gormlessly while he waited for them.

His disability was such that he wasn't able to say 'Get the fuck out of the way'.

So I yelled in the door 'YOU HAVE TO MOOOVE!'. I swear to God she rolled her fucking eyes at me. I had to maintain eye contact with her the whole fucking time to get her to fucking move.

So, I apologise to you Riven it wasn't that I didn't believe that people could be that selfish I just had never witnessed it for myself so couldn't comprehend that someone could be so fucking dumb.

yanbu to be annoyed but definitely should have said something.
maybe the woman thought there would be 2 free spaces on the bus so you both could have got on, but she was still out of order as you should have had the first chance.

People never cease to amaze me Morloth.

Just take your kid out of the pushchair and fold it up
then you can all use the bus

I agree with that bigchris. There never used to be buggy bays on buses a few years ago. Now you get huge chariots on board with bicycle sized tyres for wheels. They often take up as much room as 3 adults standing and the baby doesn't pay a fare to occupy all that space. Take a more portable buggy, take the baby out and collapse it and put in the luggage hold.

I used to be very courteous with bus queues but lately as everyone's manner have deteriorated I no longer give a shit. People frequently turn up last at the stop and push on first and they laugh at you or ignore you if you say anything.

re A1980, I hope you are talking about the buggy, not the baby! Ha HA :)

Of course...! :)

as far as I can see in London there is no such thing as a bus queue.
It appears that it is just a matter of pushing on past everyone when the bus pulls up.
You then sit in the seats at the front which are labelled as "for those less able to stand".
Very sadly, young/fit people in these seats are then rendered completely blind and can not see the elderly/pregnant/one-legged person standing right next to them.
(commuted to work until >8 months pg 3 times now, and a total of about 10 people have ever offered a seat).

I live in London and that is true. There is no queue. It's a free for all.

I always offer my seat to the elderly, infirm, pregnant, etc. Pity the school children don't think to offer their seats considering they're travelling free.